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Why You Might Not Want to Lose Weight

In the last post I shared some simple weight loss math:

3500 Calories = 1 pound of fat

10 minutes of aerobic activity = about 100 calories burned

500 calories less (through changes in eating or exercise) per day = 1 pound lost per week

When it is all spelled out like that, it seems so easy and straightforward, doesn’t it?  But we all know it isn’t quite that simple.  Because making it all happen consistently – the exercise, the healthy eating – is hard!

Have you ever wondered why you lose weight, only to sabotage yourself and put the weight right back on? Before you get angry, frustrated and discouraged with yourself, give yourself some compassion because here may be a few reasons why you’re doing it.

While you may think it’s natural to want to lose excess weight, have you ever thought of what those extra pounds may be providing? Many people, whether they realize it or not, keep weight on…on purpose. There are many reasons for this.

1) Weight can provide a protective barrier - Remember when you used to hide behind your mom’s leg when you were scared? You may be using the excess weight to provide that same protection for you now. Maybe there are reasons why looking or feeling sexy or attractive brings about fear or discomfort for you, so keeping the weight on prevents those uncomfortable feelings from arising.

2) Being overweight is comfortable – Another reason you may keep weight on is because you’re unsure or uncomfortable with the expectations that may be placed on you with a new, fit, sexy body. At your current weight, you know what’s expected of you and there’s a sense of familiarity with it all. These feelings may be easier to deal with than the discomfort of the unknown; even if what’s familiar is being overweight and unhappy.

3) Partners in crime – Still another reason you may be keeping weight on may involve a partner. Maybe eating together is a connection you both have or cooking together is an activity you both share. Rather than risk breaking that bond, you continue the activity and habits you’ve developed to maintain that connection.

4) Being attractive could be a threat – Yet another reason may have to do with the threat a partner may feel if your weight loss means more attention from the opposite sex, higher self esteem and a greater sense of self confidence. Perhaps your spouse or partner is insecure, jealous and feels threatened by what your new look and improved self confidence may bring. Instead of working through those issues, many women find it’s easier to keep the weight on to avoid “rocking the boat” with their partner.

5) Habits are hard to break – Another reason we may keep the weight on has to do with your habits. You may eat the same foods, at the same times, in the same places from day to day. These habits you’ve created are now deeply ingrained within you; they’re a habitual part of your daily routine. For example, maybe you’ve grown used to skipping breakfast, grabbing a fast food lunch, coming home to eat a big dinner and relaxing in front of the TV at the end of a long day with a bag of potato chips. While these habits may be familiar, they can play a significant role in keeping extra weight on.

I’ve worked with many moms who’ve lost weight, then find a way to sabotage their weight loss efforts and quickly gain it right back. While often it’s a question of creating healthier habits to get the weight off once and for all, sometimes it’s important to dig deep and see if there’s a reason why you’ve been intentionally keeping the weight on. Of course, if you discover something too difficult to work through alone, you may need to get additional support.

Just because something has been a certain way for a while, doesn’t mean it has to stay that way if it doesn’t work for you anymore. You can make any change to your thoughts, actions and habits in order to slowly and gently discover your best self. It starts with awareness and the desire to change something that’s not working for you.

Do you have a story about how you have found a way to overcome obstacles in your life or relationships to move along the path to a healthier life?  If so, I would love to hear about it!  Please leave a comment below or send an e-mail to Debi (at) themojocoach.com.

Burning it up – Aerobic and Cardiovascular Exercise

What is aerobic exercise?

In a nutshell, aerobic exercise is the type of sustained activity where you engage the large muscles of your body (legs and gluts) for a prolonged period of time.  Aerobic exercise increases the need to oxygen that allows these muscles to perform, helps to flush toxins out of the bloodstream, increases your metabolism, and strengthens the heart and lungs.  Aerobic activity also requires sustained energy in the form of calories that are used to fuel your workout. Calories stoke the aerobic flame as wood or coal stokes a furnace.

Calories expended = pounds lost.  My favorite kind of math!

Math actually isn’t my favorite, but here are a couple of simple formulas for you.

3500 Calories = 1 Pound of body fat

500 Calories Less per Day X 7 Days = 1 Pound of body fat lost per week

Now that you know that math, there are a couple of ways you could go about this (and no, saying that’s too much and giving up is not one of them).

1) Burn 500 calories per day with exercise.  You burn about 100 calories every ten minutes of sustained aerobic activity when exercising at a challenging level, so a 50 minute aerobic workout each day would burn the 500 calories.  If that sound likes too much for some of you, here’s another option.

2) Burn 250 calories per day with exercise and eat 250 calories less each day.

The bottom line is, if you burn or expend more calories than you take in, you lose weight.  If you take in more calories than you burn, you gain.

Knowing these numbers can also help clear up some issues about being discouraged with only a one or two pound weight loss each week.  Two pounds is 7000 calories!!  That’s a tremendous amount of calories to eliminate through less food or more activity.

The recommended daily intake of calories for the average woman ranges anywhere from 1500 to 2200 calories per day.  So, don’t minimize your accomplishments, remember you’ve either burned or given up a lot of calories to lost a pound of fat!

When it comes to the appropriate type of aerobic activity for you, it’s a completely personal decision.  One mom may love to walk, another may love to run, another may love to dance, hike, use the elliptical machine, swim, bike, or hit the courts for an hour of tennis.  It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you a) choose something you enjoy and b) DO IT!

If you find your aerobic exercise torturous, you’ll hardly look forward to it.  But if you find it invigorating, rejuvenating, and inspiring – mark my words, you’ll miss it when you can’t do it!

You may be the type of person who becomes easily bored with routine.  If that’s the case, mix things up a bit and discover a few different activities you enjoy.  Try an organized sport that keeps you moving, or change your pace between high and low intensity while alternating between walking, jogging or running.  You can build a library of fun exercise DVDs or take classes at a nearby health club.  Maybe you want to go back to doing something you enjoyed before you had kids like jumping rope or rollerblading.

I’ll tell you a quick story.

When I was sixteen years old, I had my heart set on my first car, but I had no money to buy it.  It was a fire-engine red Triumph TR7 with a pull-down sunroof.  (I haven’t seen these cars on the road in years!)  I wanted the car and needed to find a way to earn enough money to buy it.

I found a job at a nearby, fancy country club where I worked as a pool waitress during the day and a hostess in the main dining room at night.  Since I didn’t have the car (yet) I had no transportation and needed to get to work, so I found an easy way to get there.  I roller skated!

Imagine this picture: I’m wearing a white uniform with my black apron tied around my waist, and I’m roller skating to work in my skates with the hot pink wheels!  Anyone who saw me got a good chuckle from the sight, but I was in great shape, resourceful, and earned enough money to buy the hottest car in my high school!

I told my kids this story, and after they told me how weird I was, I informed them that I was going to try skating again and anyone who wants to join me was welcome to.  I gave my old skates away, but found roller derby skates that are similar to the ones I had before.  Many falls and many laughs later, Disco Debi is back skating along to the same seventies music I enjoyed 25 years ago.

So find something that gets you moving that you enjoy.  And then get out there and burn it up!

Ready, Set….Slow.

When it comes to lasting weight loss, slow and steady wins the race.

Although many people take on the latest diet program, quick fix or promise of immediate results, most only find themselves right back where they started in a relatively short period of time. In fact, most people who take drastic measures to lose weight not only gain back what they lost, but gain even more leaving them more discouraged and frustrated with each attempt.

Why do we continue to put our time, effort and energy into the “quick fix” and why doesn’t it work?

Dieting doesn’t work for many reasons. The first reason is that drastic steps are temporary…at best. It isn’t realistic to commit into a 7-day-a-week exercise program if we haven’t been exercising at all or to think that we can drastically reduce our calories for the long term if we have many eating behaviors that caused the weight gain in the first place. If the changes we make can’t comfortably be worked into our day, our routine, our lifestyles and our lives, whatever we take on isn’t likely to continue. We may be able to commit to an overhaul in food choices or eating behaviors for a short while but when confronted with something that triggers us to overeat or abandon our best efforts, we will immediately go back to what is familiar and comfortable.

What is familiar and comfortable? Our habits. Whether they’re good or bad they’re what we’re comfortable with. That’s why when we want to lose weight those habits which originally caused the weight gain must be changed. We’ve all heard the saying “habits are hard to break” and because that’s true, a slow and steady approach needs to be used to develop new, healthier habits to replace the old, unhealthy ones.

So how do we break the habits which lead us to gain weight?

One thing we need to look at is our “diet mentality.” For many moms, we’re either on or off a diet at any given time. If we have that “all or nothing” or “black or white” extreme behavior when it comes to weight loss, there’s no room for error and no way to recover from any mistakes made along the way.  If the road to weight loss doesn’t allow for some imperfection, it is unrealistic to think that we can stick it out for the long haul.

Life throws us some curveballs from time to time, that’s a given. How we handle those curveballs may require some adjustments to our eating plan. If our eating plan doesn’t allow for those adjustments, where does that leave us?

It leaves us right off our diet. Angry, frustrated and discouraged, we revert right back to what is so deeply ingrained within us. Any progress made is abandoned and for many moms, here’s where the negative self talk takes us even further away from believing weight loss success is possible as we berate ourselves with every bite of foods we’ve sworn off for good. So, if this sounds so familiar and you’ve had enough of “yo-yo dieting”, weight cycling and diet behavior, what can you do?

1) Understand that each time you start an unrealistic diet, you chip away at your confidence and belief in your ability that you can lose weight. The more you chip away at that confidence, the less you trust yourself and the more powerless you become.

2) Understand that although it doesn’t sound as appealing as a “miracle cure” or “immediate solution”, weight loss is a journey. The more you discover why you gained the weight and understand that your habits can and need to be changed, the more weight loss success you’ll have.

3) Focus on the fact that each habit you change serves as a stepping stone to greater confidence, trust and belief in yourself. When we isolate a habit we want to change, put our efforts into finding a solution to turn that habit into one that better suits us, we feel proud and happy with our ability to take control of our eating and our behavior. That simply feels good and enables us to see that our choices and decisions are within our control. It brings about a feeling of strength and empowerment as well as increases our confidence and self esteem.

When we feel confident, strong and empowered, we’re proud of ourselves and realize that anything is within our grasp. While it may be more exciting to believe that drastic efforts bring huge results, when it comes to weight loss, the greatest results are found by making the most minimal…but consistent changes.

Becoming Supermarket Savvy

You know by now that one of the easiest ways to avoid temptation is to avoid bringing high-fat, high-sugar foods into your home in the first place. This effort begins in the supermarket, so learning to shop more effectively can be one of the most useful skills when trying to create new, healthy lifestyle habits. Studies have shown that moms make more than 90% of the food purchasing decisions, so now’s the time to learn how to make those decisions smart ones!

The first step is to avoid the random impulse purchasing of binge-inducing trigger foods. The easiest way to do this is by shopping with a prepared list. Sitting down to write a list out may seem like a big task, but you can make it easier.

An easy trick is to keep a running list easily accessible in your kitchen – maybe hanging on the refrigerator. When you are running low on something, jot it down. When you think of a healthy meal you’d like to try, write down the ingredients. When you see a picture, advertisement or recipe for a delicious healthy meal, grab your list and write it down.

Another great shortcut in list making (and healthy meal planning) is to subscribe to a service like The Six O’Clock Scramble, which not only gives you a week of healthy recipes, but comes with a handy grocery list including everything you need to make all of the recipes!

Once you have your list, make sure you only take the list to the supermarket.  Leave your hunger and your kids at home.

If you food shop when you’re hungry, you’re much more tempted to buy things you would normally be able to bypass.  By having a light snack or mini meal before you enter the supermarket, you’re judgment will stay intact and you will be able to make more sound choices.

Have you noticed how much more junk food you buy when you bring your kids to the supermarket with you?

“Mom, can you pleeeeeease buy this (sugary, calorie-laden) cereal I saw on TV?”

“Mom, everyone brings in these (high fat, high cholesterol, nutrient void) snacks to school!”

The battles can be endless in the supermarket, with foods containing the least nutrition and the most far, sugar and calories strategically placed right at your children’s eye level.  If you must bring your children, also bring a strong resolve to stick to your list.  If you have a choice, leave the kids at home and take a few moments for yourself.  You can use the opportunity to make better choices that the whole family will benefit from.

So, you’re armed with your list, you’ve had a snack and now you are alone in the supermarket.

Where do you begin?

First, let’s talk about labels.

1.) The first think to notice when looking at a nutrition label is to note the number of servings in the package.  The calories, fat, cholesterol, fiber and sodium are all listed for only one serving.  So, for example, if you buy a bag of popcorn and the bag contains ten servings and you finish the bag, the calories, fat, cholesterol and other nutritional information must all be multiplied by ten to understand what you have just consumed.

2.) Ingredients are listed in order from the highest concentration to the lowest.  This means that if sugar or fat are listed within the first few ingredients, there’s a high concentration of sugar or fat on the item.  The reverse is also true.  If the healthy-sounding ingredients – the fruit, the whole grains – are at the end of the ingredient list, there is likely to be only a tiny bit of them in the product.

3.) Sugar is often disguised under different names.  High fructose corn syrup, any ingredient ending in “-ose”, honey, molasses, fruit juice concentrate, and brown sugar are all forms of sugar that act just like regular, white, refined sugar within your body.

4.) If the front label claims that the food is “healthy”, “low-fat”, “wholesome”, “made with whole grain”, “made with fruit”, check the back label to see what the real story is.  Food producers do not generally have your good health in mind when they put foods on the shelf.  They want the foods to sell, and they know that these kinds of claims catch the attention of people who are trying to eat healthier foods.  But the ingredients often tell a different story.  Foods may be low in sugar, but high in fat and artificial coloring.  They may contain a small amount of whole grain, along with a hefty dose of white flour and high fructose corn syrup.  Make sure you look at the whole label and don’t rely on the health claims to guide your choices.

5.) How many of the ingredients on the list look familiar?  How many can you pronounce?  How many would you feel comfortable including in something you were cooking or baking at home? When you were a child and your grandmother baked her delicious, mouth-watering apple pie, the only flavor enhancer she added was the love that went into baking it for you.  Although there are thousands of items available in the typical supermarket today, an alarming amount are pre-packaged, processed and provide little nutrient value.

When a food is processed, it is altered from its natural state.  Valuable nutrients, vitamins and minerals are taken out while chemicals and additives are injected back in.  Food dyes, flavor enhancers, stabilizers and preservatives may make food look more colorful or extend shelf life but think about it.  If a product can last indefinitely in a store or a vending machine, what happens to it when it’s in your body?

An easy rule to make healthy purchasing decisions would be this: if you can’t pronounce it, if you wouldn’t add it to anything you were cooking or baking at home, if you wouldn’t find the ingredient listed anywhere in your favorite cookbook, it’s probably best not to eat it.

So what are the healthiest choices to make when food shopping?

Most of the healthiest foods are located in the outermost aisles of the supermarket.  These include the fruit, vegetable, dairy and meat departments.

Let’s start in the produce department.  Here’s where you really want to fill up your cart.  Pile in beautiful, interesting and colorful fruits and vegetables.  Different colors of fruits and vegetables offer different nutrients, so just by making colorful selections, you’re automatically increasing your chances of getting a wide variety of healthy nutrients.  There are also many varieties of prewashed, precut lettuces and other vegetables available, making it easy to prepare interesting salads and side dishes.  Here’s where you splurge, because if a variety of pretty, precut vegetables are available at home, your may reconsider eating pre-packaged, processed junk food.

In the meat section opt for leaner cuts of beef, chicken and turkey.  Choose cuts with less visible fat to decrease your intake of saturated fat.  If you are buying ground meat, look closely at the percent of fat (most labels now show the fat content) and buy the leanest version.  With fish, choose both fatty (salmon and tuna) and lean varieties.  Fatty fish are great sources of omega 3′s and white colored varieties (flounder, sole, and halibut) are low in fat and calories.

In the dairy section look for words such as “low fat”, “non fat”, “fat free”, “1 percent”, “2 percent”, and “skim”. Consider switching to skim milk, or at least working your way down to 2%, then 1% and then skim.  Whole milk contains about 3.5% fat (and 150 calories in a serving), so 2% milk is still more than half of the fat (and 120 calories), while skim milk has only .4 grams of fat and 86 calories per serving.

Eggs, butter, margarine and soy products are often in these aisles so read labels and choose carefully.  Watch the fat in your dairy products and look out for added sugar in yogurts, creamers and soy milk.

You can still pick up healthy items in some of the center aisles if you choose carefully.  In the grain aisle, try to avoid refined carbohydrates and opt for whole grain and high fiber whenever possible.  Choose 100% whole-wheat or sprouted grain bread, high-fiber cereals, whole-grain pasta, and brown rice.  The closer the grain is to its natural source, the more fiber and nutrients it contains.  Beans can also be found in either the grain or canned food aisles.  Dry beans require soaking, which may not appeal to you.  Canned beans are just as nutritious, so if you’ll eat more beans this way, buy the canned version!  In the frozen foods section, you might want to grab a few bags of frozen vegetables or mixed blends (without the added sauces or butter flavoring).  Frozen vegetables retain the vitamins and nutrients while being convenient and easy to prepare.

When you work on becoming more supermarket savvy, you become more familiar with labels, packaging, and products available in your supermarket and you begin to realize that your shopping trips can either be the first step in preparing a healthy eating environment in your home, instead of a war zone where you battle with your best intentions, your cravings and your judgement.

Are You a Mindless Muncher?

Imagine mealtime at your house. Does it go like this?

The kids are screaming, the dog is barking, the phone is ringing, and the kids are starving NOW! Soccer practice ran late leaving you less time to prepare dinner, piano lessons start in 30 minutes,  and you have to feed everyone else and eat on the go. You get the kids sitting down and your dinner consists of shoving the leftover macaroni and cheese that they didn’t eat into your mouth as you run out the door. During a lull in the action, you are able to grab a bag of something crunchy while you catch up on e-mails. Once the hectic day is behind you, you can’t think of doing anything else but staring at the TV with a bowl of ice cream in your lap.

This is not a scenario that sets the stage for mindful eating, is it?

When we eat mindfully, many things occur. First of all, we are aware of how much we are eating. We are more in tune with our body’s signals that tell us when to eat, how much to eat, and when our body has had enough. We overeat less because we are paying closer attention to what our bodies need. When we eat mindfully, we are also able to more fully enjoy our food because we are focused on the flavor, texture, aroma, presentation and atmosphere that surround us and the food we’re eating. When we eat mindfully, our bodies are determining when to eat as opposed to the event, the clock, or the show on TV.

Picture a beautifully set table with candles, china and sparking silverware. Music is playing softly in the background, you’re wearing something flattering and your partner notices how great you look. You’re hungry for your dinner, the food looks delicious and you casually stroll to the table for your exquisitely prepared meal. It wouldn’t be difficult to eat mindfully in this scenario, would it?

To eat mindfully, the first step is to be aware of what, when and why you are eating. You need to catch yourself eating when you’re not hungry.

So often we eat mindlessly when we’re passing food to others, making snacks for the kids, preparing dinner, walking past the candy dish at work, reading or watching TV. We may even find ourselves looking for something to eat when we have a few minutes to spare before the next activity, using the food as a way to kill some extra time. Somethings we may wander into the kitchen, open up the cabinets and wonder why we are even there!

I’m not talking about emotional eating, where food is used as a coping mechanism offering quick relief from your emotional pain. That is a whole other discussion. I’m talking about mindless eating where distractions and a lack of awareness cause you to take in food when you’re not hungry-when you are not paying any attention to what you are eating!

Here are some ideas to help you become a more conscious eater and conquer that mindless munching.

1) Stop and ask yourself why you’re eating.

Believe it or not, you may not even realize that you had something in your hand or your mouth.  Ask yourself if you could possibly be thirsty instead.  (Our thirst mechanism doesn’t always work effectively.  We often confuse thirst with hunger).

2) Ask yourself what you really need.

If you are bored, you need something to do – not something to eat!  If you don’t know what you are feeling, you need to figure that out, too!

If you are eating just because the food is there, here are a few tricks that might work for you.

Chew Gum - If you just want to keep your mouth busy, gum might satisfy that oral need.

Teeth Whitening Strips -  You can’t eat for 30 minutes with one on.  Less eating and whiter teeth!

Take Your Hands out of Commission – Polish your nails, apply creamy scented lotion, knit, or even wear rubber kitchen gloves.  It would be hard to eat mindlessly with any of those obstacles in the way.

Brush Your Teeth – You could also pop in a breath strip. For many people, enjoying that minty, fresh taste will prevent eating.

Find Something Else to Do – Brush the dog, clean a drawer, anything that keeps you busy and out of the kitchen.

Visualize – Picture a regular sized plate.  Now picture that plate with all of the snacks, bites and treats that you grabbed mindlessly during the day.  Put everything on the plate that you grabbed when you walked by the candy dish, ate standing up, tasted while you were cooking, nibbled while you were on the phone, sampled while you were feeding the kids, or snacked on while you watched TV.  How does the plate look? Is it overflowing?

When learning to eat mindfully, it’s important to focus on your food as you eat it.  The best way is when you eat slowly, sit down and concentrate on the taste of what you’re eating.  Many mom’s feel that sitting down to a meal is a rare treat.  But by sitting down to a meal, many things happen.  You are more aware of the amount you eat and the reasons why you are eating.  Mindful eating also leads to better digestion.  You get more benefit from the nutrients you are eating.  Finally, by eating mindfully, you’re sending an important message to yourself that you are worthy and deserving of some much needed self-care.  You’re treating yourself with some kindness and respect which overflows to those around you.

And that’s SO much better than leftover macaroni and cheese!

Are you Conserving too much Energy?

Conserving energy and natural resources is a great thing when we’re talking about turning off the lights when you leave the room or recycling.  However, it is possible in the modern world of drive-thrus and remotes to conserve too much of your physical energy and limit how much you move your body in the course of a normal day.

Electric garage door openers, television remotes, electric can-openers, dishwashers, drive-through windows, and baby monitors enable us to stay put while we accomplish many of the tasks that at one time would have required physical effort.  If you used to hand-deliver papers to your colleagues in another part of your building at work, now you can just e-mail them.  If you gamble, you don’t even have to pull the lever on the slot machine anymore!

So many products and services make things simpler and easier, yet all of this energy conservation is making us bigger than ever.  In a nutshell, the more “efficient” our world becomes, the less “efficient” our bodies become at burning calories.

Take a minute to think of someone who’s naturally thin.  Not someone who lives from one diet to the next or rarely eats a meal, but someone who maintains their weight with seemingly relative ease.  One thing you may notice about this person is that she rarely conserves energy.  When she needs something, she goes and gets it instead of asking you to pass it to her.  When she wants to get somewhere, she moves at a quick pace instead of strolling along.  When she has free time, she often will choose an activity that requires movement, such as gardening, instead of watching TV.

Naturally thin people are often not as physically efficient as overweight people.  They won’t wait for things to pile up before taking them upstairs, wait for the elevator when the stairs are right there, or wait for the closest parking spot to prevent a longer walk.  They don’t think about the extra movement, they just do it.

Naturally thin people are also likely to fidget.  Studies have found that fidgeters burn many more calories than their more sedentary contemporaries.  Their bodies are constantly moving whether doodling, toe tapping, rocking while waiting in line, or pacing while on the phone.  Movement expends energy (calories) and although it may not look like much, this extra energy expenditure adds up over the course of the day.

If you don’t know a naturally thin adult, take a look at your kids.  If they need to get somewhere, they don’t slowly walk to where they want to go – they run, jump, skip, hop, bounce or glide!  If you’re exhausted following a young child around all day, it’s because they’re constantly moving.  The reason you want to hold their hand half of the time when you’re in a busy area is because they move so fast that if you don’t hold onto them, they’ll quickly run ahead!  There’s no conservation of energy with them, just bursts of movement and action.

Take a look at how you’ve been conserving your energy in order to make life more efficient.  While it may make things easier to move less, the extra energy and health you gain by adding additional movement to your daily routine can make you feel healthier and stronger.  Challenge yourself to find two ways that you can move more.  Pace while you talk on the phone, park farther away from your destination, take the stairs instead of the elevator, stop making phone calls to co-workers and walk to their desks instead.  Commit to adding more activity to your day and to being LESS energy efficient!

Exercise Myths

There are a few myths that have been circulating for a long time and need to be cleared up once and for all.

1) If you use weights you will “bulk up”.

As women, we don’t have the high levels of testosterone that would be required to gain significant bulk, and we can never gain a lot of bulk without lifting well over our own body weight and putting in at least a few hours each day to strenuously train.  Most women who life weights using even moderate weight achieve a sleek, sculpted look.  Think Michelle Obama, not Arnold Schwarzenegger!

2) You can turn fat into muscle.

Fat and muscle are two different things.  Some people think that one turns to the other, like ice turning to water, or vice versa.  Frequently when you lose fat, you can see the muscle tone that was hiding underneath it.  But the fat isn’t turning into muscle any more than wood can turn into metal.

3) Fat weighs more than muscle.

A pound of fat weighs exactly the same amount as a pound of muscle.  The difference is that muscle is more compact – fat can take up to five times the space!  Two women can weigh exactly the same amount but be two different sizes depending on what those pounds are made up of.  A women with a higher percentage of body fat will be larger than another of the same weight who is more muscular.

4) If you focus exercise on one body area, you can “spot reduce”.

If you have heavy thighs, you can do leg lifts until the cows come home, but you will not be able to lose fat specifically in your thigh area.  Fat in your body is systemic, just like the blood that travels through your veins.  Fat can be lost through aerobic activity or by increasing your rate of calorie burn by building extra muscle.  But, while we can definitely lose fat, we can’t specify where the fat will come from.

5) Some people just don’t sweat.

Sweat is your body’s way of cooling down when it is heated by exercise.  If you aren’t working up a sweat, you need to work a little harder!  Upping your intensity can help make your workouts more effective.

6) I can’t exercise.

This is the worst myth of all.  If you believe that you can’t exercise and become fit and healthy, you sabotoge yourself before you even get started!  Your limiting thoughts will keep you from taking the first steps to become fit and well, ensuring that you stay convinced that a fit, healthy body is something you can never achieve.

Here’s where you take that inner critic and tell her to take a hike!  You can do anything.  Whether you chose to believe it or not, it will surely come true.

Take a look at the myths that you have bought into that aren’t working for you.  Are you stuck in an exercise rut that isn’t working because of beliefs you have about what it will take to get healthy?  Try a reality check on those beliefs.  Making some small changes to your routine can get you moving forward toward a healthy new you!!

School’s Back in Session…For Mom!

The first day of school is still a few weeks off here in New York, but I know that in many places across the country the kids are already back in the classroom or starting in the next few days.

Whatever your specific schedule is, towards the end of summer, moms begin to think about the upcoming school year. While the summer may have meant lazy days without schedules or routines, the school year brings about something else entirely. The whirlwhind of shopping for school supplies, shifting towards earlier bedtimes and few final summer sleepovers are all being crammed into the next few weeks. And very soon, new schedules, routines, clubs, sports, play dates and commitments will all begin.

Think about how things went for you during the last school year. Were you organized and happy? Or were you stressed, overextended and overcommitted? You can follow that same path again and if it worked for you, that’s great. If it didn’t work for you, you have another choice. The choice to reevaluate the decisions you made before, keeping what worked and changing what didn’t.

When you stop and reevaluate, you give yourself an opportunity to come up with a better strategy. You give yourself a chance to think about your values and what really matters most to you. Most importantly, you send a powerful message to yourself and those around you that your happiness matters, too.

So let’s say that you spent much of the last school year feeling overwhelmed with commitments. How can you make a change?

First take a look at what you are saying “yes” and “no” to. Chances are that each time you say “yes” to a task you’d rather not do, you are forced to say “no” to something that would bring you greater joy, passion and purpose.

Here’s an example. Your daughter has a classroom performance and she’s counting on you being there. In order to get there on time, you left work early, ate in the car and returned phone calls during the drive. You race through the doors of school where you’re stopped by an acquaintance who asks you help out at the next PTA fundraising event. Your thoughts are on your daughter and the look she’ll have on her face if she doesn’t see you this minute, so you end the conversation quickly with, “yes.”

After the performance you hug your daughter, race back to work and realize that you just added yet another task to your overflowing to-do list by saying “yes” when your mind, body, and soul were all screaming “no.”

Why did you say yes? Maybe you felt guilty that you haven’t participated as often as some of the other moms. Maybe you didn’t want to be accused of “not being a part of the team.” Maybe you felt you’d be disliked, rejected or perceived as selfish if you didn’t say “yes”. Maybe you just don’t know how to say “no.”

What are your priorities? For many of us, spending time with family is found somewhere near the top of the list. If quality time with your family is important and taking on another commitment will only leave you with less time for those you love, is saying “yes” in the best interest of you, your family, your values and your priorities? Saying “yes” to another time stealer leaves you saying “no” to something else that could have been fun, enriching and fulfilling.

Many moms feel when they say “no” to a request they are rejecting the person making that request. We all know what rejection feels like and hope to spare anyone from the pain it causes. However, presuming that the person is personalizing the request is an assumption that is frequently just not accurate. The person asking simply wants to know the responsibility is taken care of so they can check one more thing off their to-do list. Most people understand that saying “no” to their request is nothing personal, and they will move on and ask someone else to do the job.

Many moms say “yes” to avoid the confrontation or look of surprise that may result from saying “no.” These moms sometimes feel it is easier to take on the extra work than deal with the aftermath of saying “no.” Here’s a thought. Yes, it may be uncomfortable for a minute or two. You may feel tense, stammer and wish you were anywhere else. But that feeling is fleeting and the freedom you gain by staying true to your values will last much longer.

Many moms believe they’ll be perceived as mean, selfish or “above it all” if they say “no.” First of all, if someone is going to criticize and judge you and your behavior, do you really care what they think? Second, is it mean or selfish to use that extra time to cuddle with your kids, go on a “date” with your husband or catch up on some extra sleep so you’ll have more patience, energy and clarity? Finally, you are your children’s greatest role model. They look to you to see how to feel, act and behave. If this extra commitment leaves you feeling stressed, overwhelmed and overextended, what is that you’re teaching them?

Many moms just don’t know how to say “no.” Maybe those two little letters just sound too harsh or severe for you. A more subtle approach may work better. If this is the case, how about something like: “I need to think about it and get back to you.” This is a great way of buying time so you can make a clear decision after thinking it through. Another option may be: “I’d love to, but I have too much on my plate right now.” This is a straightforward, honest response that few moms can argue with. A final option may be: “Now’s not a good time but when I’m able to help, I’ll let you know.” This keeps the door open for future requests while remaining true to your priorities and yourself.

As the kids go back to school they will have another year to learn, grow and evolve. If we choose, we can use the opportunity to “go back to school” and take some lessons in growth and development ourselves. This school term, let’s work on reevaluating old habits and unhealthy behaviors in order to help ourselves, improve our relationships and become the empowered moms we’d always hoped we’d be.

It’s time to go back to school. Let’s make it a great year!

Out of Sight, Out of Mind

One of the first recommendations that I always make for my clients who have difficulty controlling themselves around certain foods is to get some of those particular foods out of their house. If it’s not there, you can’t eat it!

But even with the best of intentions to keep only the healthy stuff around, special occasions come up, children want treats, you throw a party, or there are just some great leftovers that you can’t bear to part with. What is a mom searching for her mojo to do?

Do you notice how you tend to grab more food or snacks just because thet’re sitting out on the counter? How about when you wrap up delicious leftovers from a holiday or party and it’s just a little too easy to find them when the craving calls?

Here are some tips for making the food a little less accessible – and a little less likely to end up as extra padding on you!

1) Never leave food out on your counter, table or desk. It’s a open invitation to indulge whenever you glance at it or pass by.

2) Wrap foods in aluminum foil instead of saran wrap. You don’t see the tempting food and are less likely to be affected by it.

3) Put tempting food in a less convenient place. I put dangerous foods in the refrigerator in my garage. As I walk to the garage, it gives me an opportunity to think about how much I really want it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve changed my mind on the way to find my hidden treat!

4) If you love to bake, make things that you don’t like so you won’t be tempted by them. Or at least make things you don’t love so you can enjoy a little and not feel like you have to have more and more!

5) Ask you partner or your kids to put the food away and not tell you where it is (my son loves to do this with anything BUT food by hiding my keys, wallets, cell phone, etc.)

6) Freeze it. If you put single-serving portions of your tempting foods in the freezer, you can defrost and enjoy a little bit at a time. And having to defrost it gives you that chance to reconsider!

7) Do not feel at all guilty about throwing tempting food AWAY! If you can’t stay away from it, and it isn’t good for you, there is nothing wrong with “storing” it in the trash! Here’s a mantra for you: “It looks better in the trash than on me!”

Try to commit to putting all food out of harms way. Nothing should be left on countertops, tables or within easy access. See how much easier it is and how much less you struggle when you are less tempted. When you reach for food it will be more intentional, you’ve planned and allowed for it.

You’ll also see that if you’re struggling to find and recover hidden food like a crazy person, something deeper might be going on!

Do you have any tips or tricks for saving yourself from the foods that can make you lose control?  Post a comment and share your ideas with the other moms out there!

Why do YOU need to exercise?

Why do you need to exercise?

There are many reasons to incorporate exercise into your life.  But all of them may not have the same motivating power for you.  Finding the benefits of exercise that mean the most to you personally can make all the difference in getting you into a long term habit of regular exercise.

Some of benefits of exercise that you might consider are:

  • Reduces your risk for conditions such as heart disease, stroke, diabetes and obesity
  • Helps reduce your blood pressure
  • Increases HDL (“good” cholesterol) and reduces LDL (“bad” cholesterol)
  • Clears toxins
  • Improves the quality of your sleep
  • Sharpens your mind and increases energy
  • Makes your heart and lungs stronger and more efficient
  • Elevates mood
  • Helps manage stress
  • Sets a positive example for your children
  • Tones your body and keeps you slim

You have probably heard most of these benefits before, and they’re all good reasons to get off the couch and get moving.  But finding the one that motivates you is the key to making exercise a part of your life!

If reducing the risk of disease jumps out on the list and makes you want to get started, then think about how exercise helps normalize your levels of stress hormones, blood glucose levels, and insulin levels.  Normalizing these levels keeps your body in balance while reducing your risk for diseases.

If the idea of elevating your mood is especially appealing to you, imagine being outside on the perfect day, with a clear head, listening to the perfect song and enjoying the feeling of treating your body well.  Now imagine you are midway through your workout and suddenly you feel a burst of energy that makes you feel as if you can fly.  You are completely “in the zone”, you feel weightless and you feel like nothing beats the feeling you’re experiencing right at that moment.  You may double your speed and not even notice because you are so completely enjoying the experience.

Those of you who don’t exercise may think I am nothing short of crazy, but I can only urge you to give this “high” a try!  When you compare it to any chemically induced high, this one is available any time, for free, and is actually good for you!

Another example of how exercise can elevate your mood is by giving you a positive outlet for stress relief, building your confidence by building a more fit body and showing yourself a commitment to living a healthy lifestyle.  The positive thoughts that come along with these feelings will overflow into other areas of your life.

If setting a good example for your children seems like a strong reason to get moving, realize that you can tell your children all day long how important it is for them to exercise.  But if they see you finding the time to exercise yourself, they may follow your example and get out and try it themselves.  Don’t just talk the talk, walk the walk!

If making your body lean, toned and strong sounds good to you, you are in good company!  Having children can leave your body in less than optimal condition and you can thank your little ones for the new stretch marks, change in skin tone, sagging, and those few extra pounds you may still have hanging around since their arrival.  While people will tell you these are some of the ‘medals of motherhood’, I’m going to tell you something else.  You don’t have to be unhappy with your post-pregnancy body.  In fact, you can make your post-pregnancy body stronger, sleeker, and sexier than ever before.

While you may have a few extra pounds on you, you also may have some new curves to work with.  While your skin tone may not be the same, you can certainly tighten up what’s lying underneath.  The point is, it’s never too late to work toward a healthy, fit body!

So take some time and think about what would motivate YOU to exercise.  What benefits of becoming fit mean the most to you?  Find a personal reason for beginning or maintaining an exercise routine.  The reason can be your health, your appearance, stress-management, the chance to take some time for self-care, or showing yourself that you can make a commitment and stick to it.  Whatever reason you discover, write it down and review it every day.  On days when you don’t feel like exercising, reading your own words of motivation may offer you the incentive to get moving!




View Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC





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