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We Are What We Believe…

We are what we believe.

Our belief system is formed by the repetition of an idea (a positive or negative idea) from someone we trust.

For example, if someone you trusted repeatedly told you how wonderful you are, you may feel confident in your wonderfulness :)

If on the other hand, you were told repeatedly how incapable or inept you were, unfortunately you may have grown to believe this too and over time, it may have become your belief as well. Are you surprised then when you go into your adult life, carrying this belief system and living within these limits?

So what do you do now?
Reevaluate these old ideas discarding the ones that keep you safe, stuck and small while forming a new belief system that serves and supports you!

As you slowly exchange the limiting beliefs that keep you back for a belief system that propels you forward, you’ll soon see the greatness that others see in you.

Enjoy the day!

Debi Silber, “The Mojo Coach”
www.TheMojoCoach.com

What Do You Do to Show Yourself Some Self Care?

What do you do to show yourself some self care?

Recently, a hair care company conducted a study involving 3000 women. While a whopping 84% admitted they let their appearance slide, over 94% revealed that they feel better when they take measures towards their own self care. So, if we feel better when we take the time to care for ourselves, why don’t we make it a priority?

For many people, they just don’t know where to start.

I always recommend starting small and make a few minor changes which may encourage you to make a few more alterations in the right direction. Here are a few ideas which many of my clients have tried. Choose any one which feels right and motivates you to continue on your wellness journey.

-Clean out your closet-anything with rips/holes/stains either fix or toss

-Get a long overdue manicure, pedicure, haircut or coloring

-Take a long bath, go for a walk, call a friend, clean out a drawer, donate gently used toys/clothes

-Exercise

-Read a book, take a walk in nature, listen to soothing music, watch a funny movie

-Donate your time to an organization you resonate with

-Shop at your local farmers market, try a new vegetable, buy organic produce or start a vegetarian night

-Schedule a “date night” with your partner

Believe it or not, these minor changes encourage you to take better care of yourself because they make you feel better. Then you may want to eat better, exercise, find healthier outlets for stress control, etc.

Have any ideas I didn’t mention? I’d love to hear them, comment and share!

Debi Silber, “The Mojo Coach”
www.TheMojoCoach.com

Be My VIP Special Guest…

You’re cordially invited as my VIP special guest for this exclusive online event:

How to Look, Feel and Live Like a Leader

This will be a fast paced, info-packed webinar filled with everything you need to know so you can immediately begin to look, feel and live like a leader.

You’ll also receive a special VIP downloadable copy of my new book A Pocket Full of Mojo: 365 Proven Strategies To Create Your Ultimate Body, Mind, Image and Lifestyle (recommended by Brian Tracy-author of 55 books in 38 languages, Marshall Goldsmith-the New York Times and million copy best selling author of MOJO and What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, along with many other celebrities and thought leaders).

Clear your calendar, grab a cup of coffee, a pen and paper and do all you can to be a part of this exclusive event!

Hope to “see” you on January 31st at 9am PST/ 12pm EST

Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC The Mojo Coach
www.TheMojoCoach.com

Yes and No Confusion-Part 2

In the last post we looked at how many of us say “yes” to things that take us further away from what we value most like spending time with family and friends or giving ourselves some much needed self care and downtime. This post is all about what we’re saying “no” to…when we really should be saying “yes”!

Think of how often you may have said “no” to a new adventure, opportunity, possibility or situation. There was a chance for an exciting experience, a rewarding relationship or a new direction. Maybe it was an opportunity to learn, grow or evolve where you were required to leave your comfort zone in order to pursue a dream, goal or talent. You wanted to say yes, thought about it, but what did you do? You turned down the opportunity and said no!

You may have told yourself you’re too busy, too old, too heavy, not smart enough, not ready, not good looking enough, you don’t have the right resources, information or equipment. Maybe you were just afraid of the idea of change. The opportunity presented itself, you wanted to say “yes” but your uncertainty or fear stopped you cold. This is a case of yes and no confusion!

We say yes to more things than we want to in order to feel like a team player, because we feel guilty or mean saying no. Often we don’t say no just because we don’t know how to comfortably turn down a request. Then, because we’re so overwhelmed with all of the chores, responsibilities and commitments within own lives (because of saying yes too often) we say no to things that could bring us joy, passion, pleasure and purpose!

It’s time to get the right words out at the right time. It’s time to say no to things that take us further away from giving our best to ourselves and those we love, while learning to say yes to things that encourage us to look, feel and live our best right now. Also, keep in mind that saying no to something good often leaves room for you to say yes to something…great.

What exciting opportunity will you say yes to? Comment and share!

Practicing What I Preach and I Need Your Help!

Whether you’ve read my book, any of my articles, heard me speak or saw me anywhere you know that I’m always encouraging you to try new things, stretch yourself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually so the best of you can slowly emerge. Well, try anything new lately?

Now that it’s June, it’s the perfect time to try a new outdoor fitness routine, enjoy some of the delicious summer fruits and vegetables now available, make some changes to your wardrobe, meet a friend for a walk, get your resume together and start the process of finding a more rewarding career, committ to making healthier meals…you get the idea! Becoming your personal and professional best starts with taking the first step so consider this a gentle nudge from me!

Those who know me also know that I always try to practice what I preach and lately, I’ve been challenging myself with all kinds of new, scary and exciting opportunities. Some have been a raging success and some, well…haven’t been :)

This is the latest opportunity I’m excited about and I’d be so grateful and appreciative to have your help! Oprah is having a competition to find hosts for her new TV network OWN and I decided to give it a go. My goal is to bring truckloads of information, inspiration and motivation to people ready to look, feel and live their best so if you’d like my show idea, I’d be so grateful for your vote! Please click here to watch my brief video: http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=4046&promo_id=1

Also, I’m always interested in finding better ways to serve you. Would you like more coaching options, articles, events, teleseminars, products or mini coaching sessions? Let me know and I’ll do my best to create it for you!

Enjoy the day and feel free to comment and share!

Something to Consider this Mother’s Day…and Every Other Day Too!

Any plans for Mother’s Day? Whether you’re a mom or there’s a mom in your life, make sure to celebrate!

As moms, we’re so busy taking care of everyone else that we sometimes need to be reminded to take care of ourselves too. But for many moms, by the time everyone else’s needs are met, we don’t have the time, strength, motivation or energy left for any self-care. So where does that leave us? Unfit, overweight, overwhelmed and unhappy! Here’s how it works…

Face it; you probably have way too much to take care of. There are about 1,000 tasks, chores, errands and responsibilities to tackle throughout any given day.

How can you possibly get it all done? The only way is by cutting some corners and instead of our overwhelm impacting anyone else, we may find some extra time by:

giving up our workouts

grabbing something to eat while cooking for others instead of sitting down to a meal

saving a few minutes by not doing our makeup, hair, nails, etc.

wearing the same old clothes because we haven’t taken the time to get new ones

giving up time to read a book, take a bath, journal, etc. so we can straighten up the house, fold the
laundry or do the dishes

telling our friends we can’t meet them for lunch because we have errands to take care of

the list goes on and on…

So we do this for a while, maybe years, even decades. We look in the mirror and see the result of our “selflessness” and find that we’ve been loving everyone else but ourselves. We see a tired face, an unfit body and a “thrown together” look. We shake our heads in disgust and walk away. The results of our current lifestyle, choices and habits are less than glamorous. Here’s where the anger, frustration and shame starts to kick in…but it doesn’t have to!

The first step to changing ANYTHING that doesn’t work is to first become aware of it. Have you become aware of something that isn’t working for you? GREAT! Now you need to figure out what you’re missing whether it’s eating better, getting back into fitness, getting more sleep, spending time with friends, reading a magazine, etc.

Once you’ve figured that out, carve out some time and get started! It doesn’t need to be anything major, anything drastic is only temporary at best. Slow, steady steps in the right direction is the only way to achieve lasting results. Now, here’s where some moms get tripped up and think…”But I don’t have time for those things.” Is there no time because you don’t want to ask for help, feel no one can do a task as well as you, find it difficult to let go of something or believe you’ll seem inadequate if you delegate some tasks? Here’s what I say…”Please hang up the cape SuperMom!”

I’m sure you’re extremely capable of doing it all but from personal experience (if you don’t know my story I tell it in my book The Lifestyle Fitness Program) that mindset only led to a complete deterioration of my health, wellness and happiness. It led to so many symptoms, illnesses, conditions and even disease. It was only when I hit rock bottom and was willing to acknowledge the damage my lifestyle was creating that I took back the reigns and made the necessary changes to regain my health, fitness, wellness and happiness. You can too!

So, here’s my Mother’s Day gift to you. You’re amazing, incredible, capable and have all the tools you need to make the changes to your lifestyle to make it work better. You don’t need to make excuses, justify or rationalize why you want a little time for you. You deserve to feel good-not because you’ve proven anything to anyone but simply because you exist!

Give yourself permission to take better care of yourself-not just on Mother’s Day but every day. It’s not indulgent, it’s crucial to your wellness and will not only benefit you but will benefit all within your care. Will you make that over due hair appointment? Take a walk? Buy some beautiful ripe berries to enjoy? It’s so simple but so important. I’d love to hear your ideas, let me know what you’re planning to do. Comment and share!

A Self Discovery Assignment for You…Yes You!

I just got back from Bend, Oregon which may just be one of the most breathtakingly beautiful places I’ve ever been to. Here’s what I saw when standing out on the terrace:

It’s easy to see how a view like this, complete with mountains, trees and a raging river would put someone in the perfect mental/emotional space to reflect, learn and grow.

I stayed at the beautiful Mt. Bachelor resort to meet with my coach along with other inspired speakers/entrepreneurs who want to bring their messages to the world in a big way. It’s always such a thrill for me to meet up with like-minded people who’ve found their unique gifts, talents, strengths and passions. I’m also always amazed to learn how these discoveries came about. Sometimes it was a tragedy or severe illness that closed one door and opened up another they never would have considered had that tragedy not occurred. Sometimes it’s a painful situation or circumstance that motivated them to try something new. Sometimes it’s the realization that they want more out of life and don’t want to settle or have any regrets. Sometimes it’s a burning desire to leave a legacy, reach for more or deepen their sense of joy and fulfillment in order to live a rich, satisfying and rewarding life. In any case, it’s so great to see so many people with specific gifts to share, impacting and benefiting all who need to hear what they have to say. So this brings me to a question for you. What’s your gift to bring to the world?

There’s something that you do. Yes you. Something that no one has to teach you how to do. Something that makes the time fly, your spirit soar, is effortless and completely rewarding. When you do this thing, it nurtures your soul, fuels your body and mind like a great meal with loved ones and a good night’s sleep. It’s what you’d do even if you didn’t get paid for it because it’s such a joy for you. When you do this thing, you’re at your best, almost as if something has taken over you and you can’t believe how calm, confident and how simple this is for you while others may struggle to do the same thing. You’re completely in your element, enjoying the process and you can’t believe how much fun you’re having. What is this thing you do? Please try to answer this question and then let me know! Better yet, let the world know!

We have so many roles. At any one time, you may be a mom, daughter, sister, spouse, partner, aunt, friend, coworker, neighbor, acquaintance, athlete, artist, student, etc. With so many roles, you may be paying more attention to one or two-say mom and co-worker, leaving the other roles unattended to. It’s when these roles get your attention too that we begin to see just how multi talented, incredible and how gifted we really are!

So, here’s your assignment-yes, I know you’re busy but it’s worth it. Take 10% away from any role you’re overdoing it in (if you’re a mom, chances are a huge percentage is dedicated to your mom role) and spread that 10% out to strengthen some of the other important roles you play. Pay attention to what happens and enjoy the process of strengthening other areas of your life. What will you discover? That’s part of the fun and I’d love to hear about it! Please comment and share!

We Are What We…

Many of us have heard the saying “we are what we eat. Basically this means that if our diets are made up of fast food, takeout, foods high in sugar, high in fat, if we drink too much or if we consider our children’s leftovers a decent meal, we can’t really be surprised if our body doesn’t look or feel it’s best. To sum it up; eat bad, look and feel bad. Well, not only are we what we eat, but we’re also what we feel, think, hear, see, do and believe. Here’s how.

Let’s start with what you think. If you think you’re unlovable, unworthy or incapable, and these are the thoughts that play continuously in your mind, can you really be surprised if these thoughts encourage you act or carry yourself a certain way? Maybe they’ll prevent you from feeling deserving of a loving relationship, cause you to feel unworthy of something fabulous or incapable of achieving a goal or dream. If these or similar thoughts are playing in a negative tape loop you’ve created, take a look at how they’re showing themselves within your life.

Moving on to “we are what we feel.” If you feel overweight, unattractive or ill-equipped in some way, take a look at the way you dress, the way you carry yourself, what you do (or don’t do) and the relationships you have. Notice how these feelings show themselves in the clothes you choose, the opportunities you may be avoiding and what you’re willing to tolerate in a coworker, friend or partner. Now identify how different things would be if you didn’t feel this way about yourself.

“We are what we hear.” Think about it, if you’re listening to people who are negative, critical, pessimistic and judgmental, can you be surprised when you feel deflated, depleted and uninspired? Of course you’re trying to be a good listener, you may even be the “go to person” when someone wants to gossip, needs to vent or complain. Notice however, how you feel once this negativity is dumped on you.

Let’s take a look at “we are what we see.” If you’re watching programs filled with misery, pain, violence or vulgarity, are you surprised if that has an affect on you? Take TV news for example. Sure you may be up to date on the latest tragedies in the areas of crime, the recession, drugs or disease but how do these visuals resonate with you? After seeing them do you feel calm, serene and comfortable or nervous, vulnerable and afraid?

Next, let’s look at “we are what we do.” If you’re doing little more than chores or tasks when you’re home, errands and an unfulfilling job when you’re out, can you be surprised if you’re not excited about your life? Think about it. Take a look at your typical day and see what it’s made of. If it’s crammed with tasks leaving no room for self care, healthy eating, exercise, down time and fun, can you see how this may be showing itself in how you look, feel and live?

Lastly, let’s look at “we are what we believe.” Our belief system is created by the repetition of an idea from someone we trust. For example, let’s say you were constantly told “you can be, do or have anything.” This was said to you enough times and it became your belief system as well. But, let’s say you were on the receiving end of someone with limited beliefs themselves. They may have told you that you were not meant to be wealthy, happy, thin, carefree, etc. They may have believed that “life is a struggle, everyone in our family has a fiery temper, is prone to heart disease, has these thighs,” etc. When this was said to you enough times, it became your belief system as well. Are you surprised then when you go into your adult life, carrying this belief system and living within these limits?

Not only are we what we eat, but we’re also what we think, feel, hear, see, do and believe. It’s all of these factors that contribute to who we are and how we live our lives as a result. The best part about it is that with awareness and a desire to change, whatever area doesn’t work well for you anymore can slowly and steadily be changed so that it does. The choice is ours.

I’d love to hear your comments. Comment and share!

Thanks For a Great Call!

Hi Everyone,

Thanks for a great call! There were so many great questions submitted. I wish I could have had another few hours with you to answer them all!

For those on the call: I know I gave you a ton of information in a short amount of time. Just keep reading over the notes you wrote from the study guide I gave and start moving towards your best self!

Hope you liked your free gift!

I’m planning on having more calls soon so keep checking the events/teleclass page so you can be a part of the next one!

Have a great day and speak to you soon!
Debi “The Mojo Coach”
www.TheMojoCoach.com

Join Me For An Exciting New Year’s Resolution Event!

Hi Everyone,

Hope you’re having a great holiday!

Just wanted to share with you that I’ve been chosen to be one of three members on the “New Year’s Resolution Dream Team” which is being hosted at gather.com! We’ll be doing live chats, answering questions and pulling out all the stops so you can finally set, reach and maintain your goals for 2009.

I’ll also be in great company. Here are the other members of the team; One is a  leader in the fitness industry and one worked in the White House and the Pentagon! 

 Here’s the link for information about the “team” and the  event: http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474977547859

Keep checking back for updates and information.
Hope you can make it and wishing you all the best for a terrific New Year!

Debi “The Mojo Coach”
www.TheMojoCoach.com
www.AskTheMojoCoach.com




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