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Are the Messages from the Media Stronger than the Strongest Woman?

Why is it that some of the strongest women battle with their best intentions when it comes to healthy eating? For many, the answer can be found in how we react to the many messages we see and hear.

Weight loss is an over 30 billion dollar industry. We spend money on programs, pills and promises yet as a nation, we’re bigger than ever. While we’re spending money trying to lose weight, advertisers are spending enormous amounts of money creating messages encouraging us to “super size”, “value size” and “economy size.” Food stylists are hired by the media to create perfect presentations of some of the foods highest in fat, sugar and calories available to us today. If that weren’t enough, the women seen eating these foods are typically model thin. So if our goal is to eat healthier, why do we fall prey to the messages of mouthwatering meals, decadent desserts and sinful sweets we see and hear?

For many women, eating a highly restrictive diet is the cause. The more we restrict ourselves from enjoying foods we love, the more we begin to crave those same foods. The more we crave the foods we’ve decided to eliminate, the more we’ve put them on a pedestal only to be enjoyed once excess weight is lost. This type of restrictive behavior signifies the “diet mentality” where there are no allowances for imperfection. We’re either on or off the diet at any given time. In fact, studies show that the most common reason for binge eating behavior is dieting!

The other reason women may succumb to messages from the media is when they feel insecure or suffer with a low self-esteem. Models can be 6 feet tall and a size zero while the average woman is about 5’4” and over 140 pounds. Comparing ourselves to the models we see can leave many women feeling poorly about themselves. This insecurity fuels a lack of confidence or self doubt; traits that encourage women to be influenced by what they see because they feel that others must know better than they do.

A strong, empowered, confident woman can look at any message and take it in with discretion and a keen eye. She knows what’s realistic for her, what she can make allowances for or not. An insecure, uncertain woman will often be easily influenced by what she sees, reads or hears about, regardless of her desire to lose weight or become fit. When these same women gain trust in themselves, their strengths and their decisions, they’re much less likely to be affected by all they hear and see. When they understand that they are the experts of themselves, already equipped with all the tools they need, they can simply look for some ideas, tips and information to get their job done, while ending the discouraging need to compare themselves to others.

The first step is to sort through the barrage of messages we see, taking in only what is realistic for us to use. The next step involves losing the self-doubt, fear and belief that others know what’s best for us. With a renewed sense of trust we can begin to make gradual changes, which builds confidence and success. The more confident we are, the less likely we are to be swayed by some of the most powerful eating triggers which influence us today.

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Debi Silber “The Mojo Coach”
www.TheMojoCoach.com

Are We There Yet?

A few weeks ago, I went to T. Harv Eker’s Millionaire Mind Intensive and it was intense! I highly recommend it if you want to take your business, finances and your life to the next level. This event is held all over the country so I’m sure there’s one not far from you. Click here for an easy way to learn more; it’s my gift to you.

Today, I’m headed to Atlanta for a speaker’s conference where I hope to learn how to get my message out in an even bigger and better way. I’m also looking forward to meeting great new people which seems to happen every time I step out of my comfort zone and head out to experience something new. When was the last time you broadened your world, did something different and met someone interesting? That’s how growth happens and you’d be amazed how exciting it can be, try it!

On another note my fellow freezing friends, how are you handling the winter? I know it’s so tempting to hide under those extra layers of clothing, eat warm comfort foods and hunker down until the snow melts. Speaking of snow, here are my boys Dylan and Cole relaxing in their home made igloo they made in my backyard:

Just keep in mind, the snow will melt, the temperature will rise, flowers, grass and trees will bud and bloom and you’ll soon pack away your warm, wooly clothing. Instead of the frustration and anger many feel when they realize what they’ve done to themselves in the way of extra eating and not enough activity, here’s your reminder to preplan now!

It’s already mid-February which means Spring is a little more than one month away. In one month, you can:

· Create an exercise plan you like that brings results

· Eat less processed, high fat, high calorie food in exchange for healthy, filling, real food

· Drink more water and less soda/juice/high calorie coffee concoctions/alcohol

· Find a healthier way to reduce your stress (maybe try yoga, journaling, meditation or exercise instead of overeating, drinking, shopping, etc.)

· Make plans with friends who make you laugh and spend less time with those who drain and deplete you

· Try something new that brings you out of your comfort zone. Remember if you keep doing what you always do, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten! (I think Jim Rohn said that first and I love that quote)

· Get support. If you need my help, visit www.TheMojoCoach.com to see which coaching program is right for you or at least read a few of my articles or invest in one of my books to give you some new ideas.

As my kids would say, “Are we there yet?” We’ll be welcoming the Spring soon enough and when we get there, will you be ready? Just as I’m always encouraging you to preplan your meals and snacks, here’s my 2 cents about preplanning your healthy living strategies right now so you can happily welcome the Spring when it finally arrives!

Until next time!

Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC The Mojo Coach

www.TheMojoCoach.com

How to Eat Healthy During Your Workday

Leaving the office to grab a bite for lunch or dinner? Here are just a few tips to encourage light and lean restaurant eating.

· Order an appetizer (as long as it’s a healthy one) with a salad or two healthy appetizers instead of a high fat/calorie entrée.

· Start with a clear-based soup or salad versus a cream based soup.

· Ask that the bread basked not be put down on the table. If that’s not an option, make a rule about how much you’ll have before you go and stick to it!

· At a buffet or salad bar, load up on the vegetables and watch out for high fat toppings and mixtures.

· Portion off half of the entrée and share it or pack it up for another meal.

· Use the opportunity to enjoy what the restaurant is known for; enjoying a small portion of those foods, which are unique, interesting and symbolic of that restaurant while avoiding ordinary foods that you can have anywhere.

· Substitute fruit, salad or steamed vegetables in place of high fat side dishes

· Use condiments such as ketchup, mustard, vinegar, lemon and salsa versus butter, sour cream, cheese or creamy sauces

· Ask for foods “dry” or with sauces on the side.

· Use the “fork trick” for your salad. Instead of piercing the salad then dipping it into dressing, do the reverse. Dip the fork in the dressing first…then pierce the salad. You’ll still get the flavor you love without using nearly as much as if you did it the usual way.

Here are a few behavioral strategies you can try:

· With food still left on your plate, casually add some salt, pepper or other seasoning that would make the entrée less appealing to you.

· Put your napkin on the plate indicating (even if it’s only to yourself) that you’ve finished.

· Say something like “Wow that was great, I’m stuffed.” Making a public declaration may make you think twice about digging back in once again.

· Push your plate out of reach.

· Put the opposite ends of your utensils onto the plate. Now they’re unpleasant to pick up.

· Pay attention to things like the flavor, texture and aroma the food was designed to give. Being more mindful of your surroundings will help you feel more satisfied with less food.

· When drinking alcohol, pre plan the amount you’ll have and stick to it. Remember, if you “fail to plan, then plan to fail.”

· Slow down. Put your fork down between bites, drink plenty of water to pace yourself and enjoy heaping conversations versus heaping portions of food.

An even healthier option may be to brown bag some healthy foods to keep you fueled and filled throughout the day. If that’s your choice, start with a healthy breakfast (or take it with you) and have some healthy snacks available for when hunger strikes. Keep single serving portions of fruit, nuts, low-fat cheese, low-sugar/whole grain bars, etc. and of course, drink plenty of water throughout the day. Our thirst mechanisms are often off signaling hunger when we’re in fact, thirsty.

Restaurant ordering as well as healthy snacking doesn’t have to be a daunting and confusing task. It can be simple, delicious and enjoyable with a few new ideas and some smart choices.

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Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC The Mojo Coach
www.TheMojoCoach.com

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Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC The Mojo Coach
www.TheMojoCoach.com

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Kids At Risk-A Look At Childhood Obesity

Do your kids constantly ask for treats? Does it seem like cookies and candy, juice boxes and fast food meals are all they’re willing to eat? You’re not alone- many kids are attracted to things that aren’t the best nutritional choices. Maybe you are thinking, “They’re kids, it can’t be THAT bad for them.”

Let me share some frightening statistics from the International Journal of Pediatric Obesity (a problem so large that it has its own Journal!)

Childhood obesity is the greatest health risk our kids face today

Approximately 50% of all children are or will be overweight

This is the first generation where kids have a lower life expectancy than their parents

We’re spending billions of dollars on healthcare and our kids are unhealthier than ever. What’s going on here?

One thing that’s going on is that the average American child’s diet consists of one third junk food. Snacks, candy and other prepackaged foods, desserts filled with far and sugar make up a large portion of their daily intake. And I’m not just talking about special occasions like Halloween and Christmas. This is every day, all day.

The “food” that kids are eating is nutrient void but dense in calories and it’s often the lowest quality calories that you can find. These are the choices that are placed at a child’s eye level in the grocery store, and it’s not by accident. Commercials promoting these high-sugar, high-fat, low-nutrition foods also air during your children’s favorite TV shows. The commercials for these foods are filled with bright colors, music, action and the promise of something special.

An additional issue is that, as a nation, we are suffering from “portion distortion”, and this includes our children. They are learning to super-size, and purchase “economy size” and “value sized” meals themselves. They are constantly being bombarded with unhealthy food choices and learning that “bigger is better.”And then the problems of low-quality, high-volume eating are compounded by an increasingly sedentary lifestyle. Think back to when you were a kid. Chances are you played outside with the neighborhood kids after school until it became dark. Kids today come home from school and many of them spend the rest of the afternoon and evening in front of a TV or computer screen.

So here’s a troubling equation for you:

Sedentary Lifestyle + High Fat/High Sugar Foods + Huge Portions = Overweight Kids

Now some kids have the opposite problem, instead of being sedentary, these kids have no down-time at all. They’re being shuffled from one activity to the next day in and day out. What are they eating during all of this “shuffle time”? For many moms, the easiest solution is either grabbing fast food to eat on the run, or grabbing some snacks for the kids to eat in the car. See where I’m going here?

In our well-meaning attempts to give the best to our children, we push the limits until the only possible way to get everything done is to cut corners. These corners frequently impact the food choices we make (for ourselves and our kids) when our lives become hectic and out of control.

So here’s another equation for you:

Overbooked Kids + Overstressed Moms + Convenience Foods = Overweight/Overstressed Kids

Take a look at how your lifestyle impacts your kids and see if it’s contributing to the development of unhealthy habits. Consider making changes that make healthy choices and a sane lifestyle part of the plan for everyone in the family. From stocking the snack cabinet with healthy choices, to making a plan to sit down as a family for a real dinner on a regular basis, to planning activities that get you all away from the TV for a few hours, you can make sure your kids start off on the right foot building a healthy lifestyle.

Your Diet Legacy and Your Daughter

As moms, we often try to instill our beliefs, values, ethics, morals and standards of behavior onto our children. Often, our goal is to ensure that our children learn from the benefit of our knowledge and experience so that they can create enriching, rewarding lives for themselves. So why is it then that one of the most significant messages moms often pass on to their daughters is the legacy of dieting?
Every mom wants the best for her children; there is no question about that. But unfortunately, when a mom lives through the emotional and physical pain that her overweight body may cause, she unknowingly passes the “right to diet” on as though it were a “right of passage” into womanhood.

Maybe the mom wants to prevent her daughter from suffering from a low self esteem. Maybe the mom wants to ensure that her daughter is spared the harsh judgment from others as a result of excess weight. Finally, maybe the mom regrets not having the confidence to pursue a goal or dream and wants to make sure her daughter doesn’t pass up similar opportunities.

While these goals are driven by the desire to protect and fueled with the power of love, often the greatest message that comes across is that when the daughter is ready, she’ll learn to diet just like her mom. Of course it’s not intentional but this is the “diet legacy” a mom will often pass on to her daughter. So, if this isn’t our intention, how can we teach our daughters the benefits of health and wellness without teaching them how to “diet?”

The first thing we need to do is stop dieting ourselves. We need to recognize the example we’re setting and understand that if it’s not one that benefits our daughters or ourselves, it’s worth changing. By getting rid of our own “diet mentality” we’re taking the first step to setting a better example for our children.

We also need to understand that we are our children’s greatest role models. They watch, learn and copy our behaviors and actions. If we’re berating ourselves for the way we look, we can only expect that our daughters will learn to do the same. If we fear certain foods because of the feeling of powerlessness we feel when we eat them, we’re teaching our daughters to feel that fear as well. Finally, if we’ve spent decades battling an unhealthy relationship with food, we can easily pass along this same relationship on to our children if we’re not careful.

True, lasting weight loss only occurs when changes are made slowly and gradually. The reason is because when changes are small enough, we’ve had a chance to slowly incorporate them into our routine and make them our own. As moms, we’re so overextended already. We’re often so overcommitted and overscheduled that the last thing we want to do is take on something else…especially something unpleasant. We have such a small window of “self care time” that it’s so easy to give up before we even begin. That’s what the “diet mentality” can cause. That “black or white” or “all or nothing” perspective that makes us feel that if we’re not completely overhauling our eating behaviors, it’s not worth trying at all.

It may be time to change this way of thinking in order to finally give up dieting in exchange for lasting lifestyle changes. As moms, we have so many wonderful ideas we want to pass along to our children. Dieting and the pain it causes doesn’t have to be one of them.

Me with my oldest daughter Dani-beautiful inside and out

Me with my oldest daughter Dani-beautiful inside and out

The Link Between Stress and Weight Gain

Practicing What I Preach and I Need Your Help!

Whether you’ve read my book, any of my articles, heard me speak or saw me anywhere you know that I’m always encouraging you to try new things, stretch yourself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually so the best of you can slowly emerge. Well, try anything new lately?

Now that it’s June, it’s the perfect time to try a new outdoor fitness routine, enjoy some of the delicious summer fruits and vegetables now available, make some changes to your wardrobe, meet a friend for a walk, get your resume together and start the process of finding a more rewarding career, committ to making healthier meals…you get the idea! Becoming your personal and professional best starts with taking the first step so consider this a gentle nudge from me!

Those who know me also know that I always try to practice what I preach and lately, I’ve been challenging myself with all kinds of new, scary and exciting opportunities. Some have been a raging success and some, well…haven’t been :)

This is the latest opportunity I’m excited about and I’d be so grateful and appreciative to have your help! Oprah is having a competition to find hosts for her new TV network OWN and I decided to give it a go. My goal is to bring truckloads of information, inspiration and motivation to people ready to look, feel and live their best so if you’d like my show idea, I’d be so grateful for your vote! Please click here to watch my brief video: http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=4046&promo_id=1

Also, I’m always interested in finding better ways to serve you. Would you like more coaching options, articles, events, teleseminars, products or mini coaching sessions? Let me know and I’ll do my best to create it for you!

Enjoy the day and feel free to comment and share!

We Are What We…

Many of us have heard the saying “we are what we eat. Basically this means that if our diets are made up of fast food, takeout, foods high in sugar, high in fat, if we drink too much or if we consider our children’s leftovers a decent meal, we can’t really be surprised if our body doesn’t look or feel it’s best. To sum it up; eat bad, look and feel bad. Well, not only are we what we eat, but we’re also what we feel, think, hear, see, do and believe. Here’s how.

Let’s start with what you think. If you think you’re unlovable, unworthy or incapable, and these are the thoughts that play continuously in your mind, can you really be surprised if these thoughts encourage you act or carry yourself a certain way? Maybe they’ll prevent you from feeling deserving of a loving relationship, cause you to feel unworthy of something fabulous or incapable of achieving a goal or dream. If these or similar thoughts are playing in a negative tape loop you’ve created, take a look at how they’re showing themselves within your life.

Moving on to “we are what we feel.” If you feel overweight, unattractive or ill-equipped in some way, take a look at the way you dress, the way you carry yourself, what you do (or don’t do) and the relationships you have. Notice how these feelings show themselves in the clothes you choose, the opportunities you may be avoiding and what you’re willing to tolerate in a coworker, friend or partner. Now identify how different things would be if you didn’t feel this way about yourself.

“We are what we hear.” Think about it, if you’re listening to people who are negative, critical, pessimistic and judgmental, can you be surprised when you feel deflated, depleted and uninspired? Of course you’re trying to be a good listener, you may even be the “go to person” when someone wants to gossip, needs to vent or complain. Notice however, how you feel once this negativity is dumped on you.

Let’s take a look at “we are what we see.” If you’re watching programs filled with misery, pain, violence or vulgarity, are you surprised if that has an affect on you? Take TV news for example. Sure you may be up to date on the latest tragedies in the areas of crime, the recession, drugs or disease but how do these visuals resonate with you? After seeing them do you feel calm, serene and comfortable or nervous, vulnerable and afraid?

Next, let’s look at “we are what we do.” If you’re doing little more than chores or tasks when you’re home, errands and an unfulfilling job when you’re out, can you be surprised if you’re not excited about your life? Think about it. Take a look at your typical day and see what it’s made of. If it’s crammed with tasks leaving no room for self care, healthy eating, exercise, down time and fun, can you see how this may be showing itself in how you look, feel and live?

Lastly, let’s look at “we are what we believe.” Our belief system is created by the repetition of an idea from someone we trust. For example, let’s say you were constantly told “you can be, do or have anything.” This was said to you enough times and it became your belief system as well. But, let’s say you were on the receiving end of someone with limited beliefs themselves. They may have told you that you were not meant to be wealthy, happy, thin, carefree, etc. They may have believed that “life is a struggle, everyone in our family has a fiery temper, is prone to heart disease, has these thighs,” etc. When this was said to you enough times, it became your belief system as well. Are you surprised then when you go into your adult life, carrying this belief system and living within these limits?

Not only are we what we eat, but we’re also what we think, feel, hear, see, do and believe. It’s all of these factors that contribute to who we are and how we live our lives as a result. The best part about it is that with awareness and a desire to change, whatever area doesn’t work well for you anymore can slowly and steadily be changed so that it does. The choice is ours.

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