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Too many Treats?

Published on November 1, 2009 in General. 1 Comment

First, I hope you had a wonderfully fun Halloween and that your kids enjoyed dressing up and seeing all of their friends in costume. Now that the excitement has settled, you may be faced with a huge pile of candy and wondering what to do with it.  Maybe you are thinking, “They’re kids, it can’t be THAT bad for them.”

Let me share some frightening statistics from the International Journal of Pediatric Obesity (a problem so large that it has its own Journal!)

  • Childhood obesity is the greatest health risk our kids face today
  • By the year 2010 (that’s next year) it is expected that 50% of all children will be overweight
  • This is the first generation where kids have a lower life expectancy than their parents

We’re spending billions of dollars on healthcare and our kids are unhealthier than ever.  What’s going on here?

One thing that’s going on is that the average American child’s diet consists of one third junk food.  Snacks, candy and other prepackaged foods, desserts filled with far and sugar make up a large portion of their daily intake.  And I’m not just talking about special occasions like Halloween and Christmas.  This is every day.  All day.

The “food” that kids are eating is nutrient void but dense in calories.  The lowest quality calories that you can find.  These are the choices that are placed at a child’s eye level in the grocery store, and not by accident.  Ads for these high-sugar, high-fat, low-nutrition foods air during your children’s favorite TV shows.  The commercials for these foods are filled with bright colors, music, action and the promise of something special.

An additional issue is that, as a nation, we are suffering from “portion distortion”, and this includes our children.  They are learning to super-size, and purchase “economy size” and “value sized” meals themselves.  They are constantly being bombarded with unhealthy food choices and learning that “bigger is better.”

And then the problems of low-quality, high-volume eating are compounded by an increasingly sedentary lifestyle.  Think back to when you were a kid.  Chances are you played outside with the neighborhood kids after school until it became dark.  Kids today come home from school and many of them spend the rest of the afternoon and evening in front of the TV or a computer screen.

So here’s a troubling equation for you:

Sedentary Lifestyle + High Fat/High Sugar Foods + Huge Portions =

Overweight Kids

Now some kids have the opposite problem, instead of being sedentary, these kids have no down-time at all.  They’re being shuffled from one activity to the next day in and day out.  What are they eating during all of this “shuffle time”?  For many moms, the easiest solution is either grabbing fast food to eat on the run, or grabbing some snacks for the kids to eat in the car.  See where I’m going here?

In our well-meaning attempts to give the best to our children, we push the limits until the only possible way to get everything done is to cut corners.  These corners frequently impact the food choices we make (for ourselves and our kids) when our lives become hectic and out of control.

So another bad news equation (we seem to be on a math kick!):

Overbooked Kids + Overstressed Moms + Convenience Foods = Overweight/Overstressed Kids

Let me give you an embarrassing example of overplanning gone horribly wrong.

Before I understood the importance of a sane lifestyle, downtime and reduced stress, I had my kids enrolled in anything I could sign up for.  From the minute they finished school until the minute they were all sleeping, every minute was planned.  We had to be at a game, practice, or event every evening, often doing homework in the car on the way.  Very often I’d have at least one of my four children crying because they just wanted to be home playing.

One day, I grabbed some chicken nuggets to “feed” them during our shuffling.  As we drove from one activity to the next, I started flinging chicken nuggets over my shoulder to my kids in the middle and back rows of my SUV.  I was in a panic because we were running late, and the kids were crying because they were tired from all of the running around, and my aim was so bad that no one could “catch” their dinner as it flew past!  When I finally took a moment to think about it, I cringed at my behavior.

That was my daughter’s last day of soccer practice.  She doesn’t miss it and we haven’t veered back into that overplanned life since.

Take a look at how your lifestyle impacts your kids and see if it’s contributing to the development of unhealthy habits.  Consider making changes that make healthy choices and a sane lifestyle part of the plan for everyone in the family.  From stocking the snack cabinet with healthy choices, to making a plan to sit down as a family for a real dinner on a regular basis, to planning activities that get you all away from the TV for a few hours, you can make sure your kids start off on the right foot building a healthy lifestyle.

Do you have some examples of how you have worked to build healthier habits into your family routine?  Any tips for keeping the holidays fun without an overload of treats?  Please comment or drop me a note to share your thoughts - I always love to hear from you!

Beware of Limiting Labels

Published on June 2, 2009 in General. 0 Comments

Beware of limiting labels.Were you always “the smart one”? Or “the pretty one”, “the shy one”, “the athlete” or “the geek”? It’s difficult to escape childhood without being given a label.  The labels may have been flattering or they may have been demeaning.  In either case, chances are you lived up to the label you were given.

Think about it.  Let’s say you were “the funny one.”  The attention and praise you were showered with whenever you did something funny felt great, so you kept at it in order to receive that praise.  But what happened when you wanted to be intelligent and serious?  Chances are you didn’t take the risk.  Venturing into the unknown and risking criticism or falling short of your goal wasn’t worth losing your tried and true role as the entertainer.

Even though a label may be flattering, it’s limiting because it can prevent you from stepping out of the comfort zone of how you’re being viewed and received.  We fail to strive beyond our labels.  Without the label, all areas are fair game as there are no expectations of how you should behave.

People love to categorize people, places and things.  It is easier for many of us to organize and compartmentalize things when we know what category everything belongs in. If you grew up in a household with siblings, maybe each of you had your own label, which served as a way to easily describe you.  “The smart one”, “the pretty one”, and “the baby” may have been descriptors that helped your parents easily introduce you to their friends, but these labels could also have held you back.

What about negative labels that we may have been given, or labels we may have interpreted to be negative?  If it was said enough times, we probably just accepted it to be true.  Unfortunately, this is how our belief systems are formed.  Someone we trust (or a group, organization, society, etc.) says the same thing with conviction over and over again.  Eventually we buy into it and it becomes part of our beliefs.

But what if that person or group that we trust was also on the receiving end of some limiting beliefs?  As a result, they may be misinformed, may not know any better, and they unknowingly pass that damage along to you.  Because of your trust and belief in that authority figure, you accepted the label (good or bad) that they placed on you.

For example, let’s say you had a parent who always called you “lazy”.  Maybe they were trying to motivate you to be another way or maybe they thought it was an accurate description of how you behaved.  In either case, you grew up thinking, “if they said it all those times, it must be true.”  So when opportunities came up, you heard that ongoing tape in your head - “you’re lazy” - and figured that whatever was involved may take too much effort for you because you are just too lazy.

Here’s the good news - you can get rid of all of these limiting beliefs once you identify them, evaluate them and decide to discard them.  Just as I keep saying, it’s our job to change what we don’t like.  As I’ve also said, it may not be easy, but it’s so worth it.

Can you think of some instances where your labels stand in the way of the happy, healthy verson of yourself that you want to be?  Are you “the fun one” and that makes it difficult for you to say no to indulging at parties?  Are you “the clumsy one” and that makes it difficult for you to try a new exercise routine?

What if you could throw away the old labels that aren’t contributing to your success and pick new ones that support your goals?  What if you decided you were “the adventurous one”? Or “the healthy one”? Or “the happy one”?  What would that version of you be able to do?




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