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‘Tis the Season to…gain weight?

With the holidays upon us, one of the ways many of us will be celebrating is by indulging in the high fat/high calorie foods that seem to define the season.

Big dinners, cocktail parties, cookie exchanges, candy canes, chocolate, celebratory lunches and happy hours fill our days and nights during the final weeks of the year. Many of these foods signify that the holidays are here and, of course, we’ll want to indulge in all of the special foods and sweet treats that surround us. For some, certain foods bring us right back to the comfortable place where we originally feasted on them. For others, it’s simply an excuse to put our healthy eating aside until the New Year.

If this is your game plan, you may just enter the New Year with the “gift” of an extra few pounds by the New Year. Since larger clothes are probably not on your wish list, how can you enjoy the holiday season guilt free?

One way is by pre-planning your holiday eating. You’ve heard the saying “If you fail to plan then plan to fail.” That’s certainly the case when it comes to holiday indulging. There is a way to include those special foods and treats in your holiday eating as long as you have a strategy. Since you may be headed to a few holiday parties, here’s a game plan you can use.

Let’s say you’re headed for a cocktail party. First of all, you never want to arrive hungry. Over hungry means overeating so a small snack before you go can ensure that your judgment stays in tact and you’ll make better decisions once confronted with all of the holiday goodies. For example, an apple or container of yogurt (both around 100 calories) can spare you from overindulging in thousands of calories of hors d’oeuvres.

The next strategy for a cocktail party involves drinking. Pre plan the number of drinks you’ll have and stick to it. These are liquid calories which go down quickly and easily so choose wisely. For hard liquor, keep it to a drink or two, alternating with glasses of water. For wine, use the same idea or switch to wine spritzers to cut the calories in half. There’s also the option to drink seltzer, which looks like a “real” drink so no one will question you, if that’s a concern. Finally, try envisioning each drink as a chocolate milkshake. Pictured this way, you may want to reconsider having more than one!

The next strategy involves keeping your hands busy. You can hold your drink in one hand and have a plate of vegetables in the other. You also may want to try the “clutch trick,” purposely bringing a clutch bag as opposed to one with a strap. This ties up the hand that could be grabbing unhealthy appetizers! Of course, you may want to enjoy some of those appetizers so if that’s your plan, limit yourself to a few of the most delicious looking ones and enjoy them thoroughly. Give yourself permission to savor them so that each bite isn’t eaten with a side of guilt. Also, when you’ve given yourself permission to eat a set amount (let’s say three or four), you’re much less likely to binge later on because you feel good about keeping with your plan.

If the party involves a sit down meal, only eat what’s special for that holiday. For example, let’s say for Christmas dinner there’s a delicious looking stuffing on the table that you want to try along with other types of breads and rolls. Since a rolls are something you have on any regular night out, skip them to allow for a taste of that special stuffing. By having what’s unique for the holiday, you’ll feel a part of it without “stuffing” yourself!

Finally, if you’ve overdone it, apply the three to one rule. That means, for every one thing you’ve overindulged in, make the next three choices healthier and better balanced. For example, a meal that’s over the top needs to be balanced with three moderate meals. A food choice that’s high in calories and fat can be balanced with three more healthful options.

With a plan, you can enjoy the holidays without the “leftovers” on your belly, hips and thighs. By putting some strategies into place now, you can have a New Year’s Resolution that’s different from the millions of other women who will be making a pledge to lose the excess weight that they collected over the holiday season!

Mojo for the Holidays Contest

Are you waiting for January 1st to begin your weight loss program?

Have you resigned yourself to the fact that you’re probably going to gain weight during the holiday season?

Yes, you’re about to enter the period of time where we tend to gain the most weight (and feel the most stress!) But, in one 30-minute, one-on-one Mojo Coach® Holiday Strategy Session I can give you a personalized plan to prevent holiday weight gain!

We will talk about everything from how to handle parties to how to deal with the well meaning “food pushers” you’ll be visiting with over the next few weeks! We’ll talk about preventing the physical, emotional and mental wear and tear the holidays can cause, strategies for cocktail parties, sit down dinners, what to bring, drink and even what to wear to prevent weight gain! (Remember, I’ve worked exclusively with hundreds of moms as a Registered Dietitian, Personal Trainer and Whole Health Coach for nearly 20 years and I’m going to give you everything that’s worked for them and we’ll find the perfect strategies that will work for YOU!)

Get a jump on some healthy habits now before you feel that overwhelmed, overextended and overstuffed feeling the holidays may bring! Then you can move into the New Year with a head start on your healthy resolutions.

If you want to guarantee your strategy session with me, you can sign up now for a 30 minute Mojo Coach® Holiday Strategy Session - that’s all we’ll need to strategize YOUR personal holiday survival plan for success. Besides getting a unique and specific plan based around your individual needs, challenges, obstacles, lifestyle and more, your $200 strategy session investment will include:

• A Complimentary copy of my book: The Lifestyle Fitness Program: A Six Part Plan So Every Mom Can Look, Feel and Live Her Best (recommended by Parenting Magazine)
• My Free Report: 10 Tips to Avoid Weight Gain from Mindless Munching!
• A Free subscription to my e-mail newsletter: Mojo Moments
• 52 weeks of tips and advice for getting your body, mind and spirit in shape!
• Access to resources, articles and more!

If you want to make sure you have everything you need in place to prevent weight gain, stress and overwhelm this holiday season, a limited number of spots are available for this unique type of coaching session. Secure your spot, give yourself a holiday gift (or have a special someone get this gift for you!) and get started right now.

AND, I’m offering 2 lucky women the chance to win one of these $200 value Mojo Coach® Holiday Strategy Sessions…for FREE!

To enter the contest, do one or more of the following things – multiple entries will be accepted (and encouraged!) So spread the mojo around and give yourself more chances to win! Encourage your friends to enter - the more the merrier!  And couldn’t we all use a little extra mojo at this time of the year?

1) In the comments below, tell me the biggest challenges you face during the holidays.

2) Become a fan of The Mojo Coach on Facebook and write on the wall what your challenges are.

3) Tweet about the contest on Twitter and include the hashtag #GETMOJO. Here are a few sample tweets you can use:

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4) Write about the contest on your own blog and link to this post.

Entries will be accepted starting NOW until midnight on Thanksgiving (November 26th). Winners will be chosen at random and will be contacted via e-mail on Monday, November 30th.

So get to work on your entries and spread the mojo all around the internet. I look forward to working with you to overcome those holiday challenges!

While you are here, get a jump start by entering your name and email in the sign up boxes at the top of the page (right under my picture).  You’ll instantly start receiving:

• My Free Report: 10 Tips to Avoid Weight Gain from Mindless Munching!
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• 52 weeks of tips and advice to get your body, mind and spirit in shape!
• Access to resources, articles and more!

If you are anxious to get started now you can sign up now for a Mojo Coach® Holiday Strategy Session, I promise it is worth every penny!. If you enter and win the contest, you will get an additional 30 minute follow-up session for FREE!! Signing up is easy, just click here and I’ll email you to set up the best date and time to plan YOUR strategy session ASAP!

For those entering for a chance to win your Mojo Coach® Holiday Strategy Session for FREE, good luck!


Your Perfect Workout

Is there such thing as the “perfect workout”? There are an endless number of books, DVDs, websites and infomercials that offer the perfect plan to whip you into shape in record time.

Which one is really the perfect one?

What would your perfect workout be? Really, it would be the one that you enjoy and can commit to doing on a regular basis.

Is it a stroll in the park, taking a class, a rigorous hour of tennis, or using the stairmaster during your favorite TV show? Maybe it means focusing on your breath in a yoga class, stretching your muscles with pilates or running to your favorite songs. The choices go on for workouts that can benefit your body, mind and soul.

But many moms don’t exercise at all. In fact, the only exercise they’re getting is exercising their right not to exercise.

Now like many moms, let’s say you haven’t exercised in an embarrassingly long time. Your never-ending to-do list got the best of you and the only way you could get everything done was by cutting your own self care right off your list. So unfortunately, exercise was one of the things to go. At some point, you began to feel sluggish, lethargic and unfit. Maybe you noticed that your clothes weren’t fitting as well as they used to. You may have realized that while you used to sprint up the steps, now you’re huffing and puffing as you near the top. Whatever causes you to see that you need exercise in your life doesn’t matter, as long as you use that information to get going.

If this sounds like you, it’s time to find your perfect workout.

Even if you haven’t worked out in weeks, months, even years -  you need to find something that you can enjoy. If you’re starting out from a long period of not exercising, it is also important that you begin at a level that’s just slightly more challenging than what you feel you can easily do. This way, you don’t scare yourself off from beginning and sticking with a new routine. It’s also a great way to build confidence in yourself.

By setting a goal that’s reasonable, then achieving that goal, you gain the confidence to keep trying. It’s an empowering feeling to take back the reins and know that your fitness, health and priorities are up to you.

You can always start with walking. You know how to do it, you don’t need to be exceptionally coordinated and all you need is a properly fitting pair of walking shoes. Just getting outside, looking at the changing leaves or noticing the beauty that surrounds you may be enough to keep you motivated to walk. If that’s not enough, you can bring an iPod or MP3 player to listen to your favorite music. There are also some great services which enable you to download walking workouts according to your workout level and needs. You can even download podcasts of programs you enjoy, recordings of audio books, or just use the quiet time as an opportunity to clear your head.

Another convenient option is to use exercise DVDs.  There are so many options available that you are sure to find something that you enjoy.  You can try starting out with easy workouts and then as you progress, move up to longer or more challenging choices.  A great resource for exercise DVDs is Collage Video.  This website includes video clips of each DVD and lots of detailed information about the different videos. You could also check out SwapADVD.com for a great source of (practically free) DVDs.

For moms of babies and toddlers, you might want to check out Stroller Strides.  This is like an exercise club for moms where the stroller and your child are used as exercise equipment.  This can be a great way to incorporate time with your kids, socializing with other moms, and exercise!

Once you have an idea of what kind of exercise makes sense for you, the next challenge is finding time to do it.  You may work outside the home, have a newborn, or whatever. You can justify or make excuses for anything you don’t want to do. The idea is to find a way to get it done so you can feel good again.

If you work outside the home, you can have a gym bag packed and ready, and head to the gym before work or before you come home. If you feel guilty about taking extra time away from your kids, maybe realizing that the happier mom is, the better she is for everyone else is enough to change your mind. You can also try exercising during your lunch break, taking a short walking break every hour or find an exercise buddy you can walk with and be accountable to.

If you are at home with young children, there are some other strategies you may want to try. Get on that treadmill in your home, pop in that DVD or just tune into your local exercise channel. Just put your baby in an safe area nearby. Your baby may even get a real kick out of watching his or her mommy working out. If not, he or she can use the time to sleep, snack or play. If your children are a little older, give them a special activity that they only get to do while mommy works out. They’ll look forward to the activity while you get your workout in.

If you want to workout outside, there are great exercise joggers that allow you to walk, jog or run with your child safely strapped in. You can also wear your baby in a Baby Bjorn or baby backpack. This adds weighted resistance to your workout while taking away any excuse you may have! Your baby will also love the special time feeling close to you while getting some fresh air. Another option is to join a class for moms and their kids. If that doesn’t work for you, many health clubs offer babysitting for a small fee. Lastly, you can hire a babysitter or find a friend that is willing to take turns babysitting each others children so you can both make the time for much needed self care.

It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you do something. The key is to find a way to incorporate exercise back into your life. If you do nothing now and exercise for fifteen minutes tomorrow, you’re moving in the right direction. What’s most important is that you give your body, mind and soul what they so rightfully deserve.

And as you begin to feel better about your body and your commitment to take better care of yourself, your body will gratefully respond by slowly getting back to being the finely tuned machine it is meant to be.

So take some time to think about how exercise can fit into your life, and take the first steps toward a new, healthy habit and a fit and happy you!

Suggestions? Comments? Ideas?  Please leave a comment or send me a note!  Spread that Mojo!!

Pounds or Pants? Measuring Weight-Loss Success

How can you measure weight loss success?

Some of my clients like to measure pounds on the scale. Others like to use a tape measure to track body measurements. Others choose to be professionally tested using skin calipers or hydrostatic weighing. Still others use the fit of their clothes or the compliments they receive.

There are pros and cons for each of these methods, so it is important to understand them all in order to determine which one works best for you.

1) The Scale

It sure can be motivating when the needle moves to the left.  But what if you are including some strength training in your exercise program and building muscle?  Your weight may remain steady (or even go up) as the composition of your body changes.  So you may be looking better, but the scale isn’t showing your success.  This can be really frustrating!

Also, during weight loss, many of my clients reach a plateau.  Your body isn’t a computer and may not lose weight with the kind of precision we’d like.  You may not show a weight loss for a few weeks and then show a fairly dramatic loss all of a sudden.  If you go by the numbers on the scale alone, you may become discouraged.

2) Tape Measure

The tape measure method can be very motivating or very discouraging, depending on who’s doing the measuring and the results you get.  I’ve worked with moms who’ve been so unhappy with their bodies that the thought of taking measurements is nothing short of terrifying.  Although it may serve as an effective benchmark, many moms find it a discouraging way to begin their program.

For some, seeing the cold hard “before” measurements can be more damaging than any later benefit of tracking progress.  If you can handle the initial shock, tracking inches can be more motivating than tracking pounds because as you build muscle and reduce, you can see that the shape of your body is changing, even if the numbers on the scale don’t show the change.

If you do want to go the tape measure route, make sure that you take your measurements at the same time and same day from month to month.  This will allow you to see progress and avoid measuring excess water retention due to PMS, etc.  Measure your upper arm, upper thigh, waist, hip and bust.  Try to be consistent about where you measure so that you can accurately see your hard work paying off.

3) High tech Body Fat Measurements (Calipers, Hydrostatic)

These technologies have the benefit of more accurately measuring the overall composition of your body.  Watching as your body fat percentage goes down can be very motivating, even if your weight stays consistent.

However, both of these techniques, involve having a professional involved in the measurements, which is probably unrealistic for most people. Also, measurements using skin calipers also depend on the expertise and precision of the person doing the tests and can vary from expert to expert.

4) “Skinny” Jeans Test

Some moms feel that the best way to judge weight loss and fitness success is by noting how they fit and feel in their clothes.  I always encourage my clients to find a specific pair of pants that they’re trying to fit into.  It doesn’t matter if, when you start out, you can’t even get them past your knees.  From week to week, on a consistent day of the week and time of day, try on the pants and notice how they fit.  If they couldn’t go past your knees and now they do, that’s progress!  If they’re over your knees and creeping up your thighs, good for you!

5) Compliment Test

Receiving a compliment can make your day.  But choosing compliments as your success measure can be dangerous. You may not get all of the compliments that you deserve as many of the people in your life may be too preoccupied with other thoughts, or feel uncomfortable about commenting on your appearance.  Many people feel that by noticing your smaller size, they are drawing attention to the fact that at one point you were heavier.  Others may be jealous of your weight loss success.

The best person to try to impress is yourself.  You know your body best and can recognize how it is changing as a result of your hard work.  So choose a way to measure your success that’s unique and personal for you, but feel free to enjoy the compliments when they do come your way!

Consider which method makes the most sense for you, and which would be most motivating.  Commit to one of these measures and take the time to track your success on a regular basis.  The idea is to see the success and feel proud, inspired, and happy with your results.

If you have found an interesting way to track your progress toward a healthier you, please share your story with me.  I love to learn from all of the fabulous Mojo Moms out there!!

Too many Treats?

First, I hope you had a wonderfully fun Halloween and that your kids enjoyed dressing up and seeing all of their friends in costume. Now that the excitement has settled, you may be faced with a huge pile of candy and wondering what to do with it.  Maybe you are thinking, “They’re kids, it can’t be THAT bad for them.”

Let me share some frightening statistics from the International Journal of Pediatric Obesity (a problem so large that it has its own Journal!)

  • Childhood obesity is the greatest health risk our kids face today
  • By the year 2010 (that’s next year) it is expected that 50% of all children will be overweight
  • This is the first generation where kids have a lower life expectancy than their parents

We’re spending billions of dollars on healthcare and our kids are unhealthier than ever.  What’s going on here?

One thing that’s going on is that the average American child’s diet consists of one third junk food.  Snacks, candy and other prepackaged foods, desserts filled with far and sugar make up a large portion of their daily intake.  And I’m not just talking about special occasions like Halloween and Christmas.  This is every day.  All day.

The “food” that kids are eating is nutrient void but dense in calories.  The lowest quality calories that you can find.  These are the choices that are placed at a child’s eye level in the grocery store, and not by accident.  Ads for these high-sugar, high-fat, low-nutrition foods air during your children’s favorite TV shows.  The commercials for these foods are filled with bright colors, music, action and the promise of something special.

An additional issue is that, as a nation, we are suffering from “portion distortion”, and this includes our children.  They are learning to super-size, and purchase “economy size” and “value sized” meals themselves.  They are constantly being bombarded with unhealthy food choices and learning that “bigger is better.”

And then the problems of low-quality, high-volume eating are compounded by an increasingly sedentary lifestyle.  Think back to when you were a kid.  Chances are you played outside with the neighborhood kids after school until it became dark.  Kids today come home from school and many of them spend the rest of the afternoon and evening in front of the TV or a computer screen.

So here’s a troubling equation for you:

Sedentary Lifestyle + High Fat/High Sugar Foods + Huge Portions =

Overweight Kids

Now some kids have the opposite problem, instead of being sedentary, these kids have no down-time at all.  They’re being shuffled from one activity to the next day in and day out.  What are they eating during all of this “shuffle time”?  For many moms, the easiest solution is either grabbing fast food to eat on the run, or grabbing some snacks for the kids to eat in the car.  See where I’m going here?

In our well-meaning attempts to give the best to our children, we push the limits until the only possible way to get everything done is to cut corners.  These corners frequently impact the food choices we make (for ourselves and our kids) when our lives become hectic and out of control.

So another bad news equation (we seem to be on a math kick!):

Overbooked Kids + Overstressed Moms + Convenience Foods = Overweight/Overstressed Kids

Let me give you an embarrassing example of overplanning gone horribly wrong.

Before I understood the importance of a sane lifestyle, downtime and reduced stress, I had my kids enrolled in anything I could sign up for.  From the minute they finished school until the minute they were all sleeping, every minute was planned.  We had to be at a game, practice, or event every evening, often doing homework in the car on the way.  Very often I’d have at least one of my four children crying because they just wanted to be home playing.

One day, I grabbed some chicken nuggets to “feed” them during our shuffling.  As we drove from one activity to the next, I started flinging chicken nuggets over my shoulder to my kids in the middle and back rows of my SUV.  I was in a panic because we were running late, and the kids were crying because they were tired from all of the running around, and my aim was so bad that no one could “catch” their dinner as it flew past!  When I finally took a moment to think about it, I cringed at my behavior.

That was my daughter’s last day of soccer practice.  She doesn’t miss it and we haven’t veered back into that overplanned life since.

Take a look at how your lifestyle impacts your kids and see if it’s contributing to the development of unhealthy habits.  Consider making changes that make healthy choices and a sane lifestyle part of the plan for everyone in the family.  From stocking the snack cabinet with healthy choices, to making a plan to sit down as a family for a real dinner on a regular basis, to planning activities that get you all away from the TV for a few hours, you can make sure your kids start off on the right foot building a healthy lifestyle.

Do you have some examples of how you have worked to build healthier habits into your family routine?  Any tips for keeping the holidays fun without an overload of treats?  Please comment or drop me a note to share your thoughts - I always love to hear from you!

Why You Might Not Want to Lose Weight

In the last post I shared some simple weight loss math:

3500 Calories = 1 pound of fat

10 minutes of aerobic activity = about 100 calories burned

500 calories less (through changes in eating or exercise) per day = 1 pound lost per week

When it is all spelled out like that, it seems so easy and straightforward, doesn’t it?  But we all know it isn’t quite that simple.  Because making it all happen consistently - the exercise, the healthy eating - is hard!

Have you ever wondered why you lose weight, only to sabotage yourself and put the weight right back on? Before you get angry, frustrated and discouraged with yourself, give yourself some compassion because here may be a few reasons why you’re doing it.

While you may think it’s natural to want to lose excess weight, have you ever thought of what those extra pounds may be providing? Many people, whether they realize it or not, keep weight on…on purpose. There are many reasons for this.

1) Weight can provide a protective barrier - Remember when you used to hide behind your mom’s leg when you were scared? You may be using the excess weight to provide that same protection for you now. Maybe there are reasons why looking or feeling sexy or attractive brings about fear or discomfort for you, so keeping the weight on prevents those uncomfortable feelings from arising.

2) Being overweight is comfortable - Another reason you may keep weight on is because you’re unsure or uncomfortable with the expectations that may be placed on you with a new, fit, sexy body. At your current weight, you know what’s expected of you and there’s a sense of familiarity with it all. These feelings may be easier to deal with than the discomfort of the unknown; even if what’s familiar is being overweight and unhappy.

3) Partners in crime - Still another reason you may be keeping weight on may involve a partner. Maybe eating together is a connection you both have or cooking together is an activity you both share. Rather than risk breaking that bond, you continue the activity and habits you’ve developed to maintain that connection.

4) Being attractive could be a threat - Yet another reason may have to do with the threat a partner may feel if your weight loss means more attention from the opposite sex, higher self esteem and a greater sense of self confidence. Perhaps your spouse or partner is insecure, jealous and feels threatened by what your new look and improved self confidence may bring. Instead of working through those issues, many women find it’s easier to keep the weight on to avoid “rocking the boat” with their partner.

5) Habits are hard to break - Another reason we may keep the weight on has to do with your habits. You may eat the same foods, at the same times, in the same places from day to day. These habits you’ve created are now deeply ingrained within you; they’re a habitual part of your daily routine. For example, maybe you’ve grown used to skipping breakfast, grabbing a fast food lunch, coming home to eat a big dinner and relaxing in front of the TV at the end of a long day with a bag of potato chips. While these habits may be familiar, they can play a significant role in keeping extra weight on.

I’ve worked with many moms who’ve lost weight, then find a way to sabotage their weight loss efforts and quickly gain it right back. While often it’s a question of creating healthier habits to get the weight off once and for all, sometimes it’s important to dig deep and see if there’s a reason why you’ve been intentionally keeping the weight on. Of course, if you discover something too difficult to work through alone, you may need to get additional support.

Just because something has been a certain way for a while, doesn’t mean it has to stay that way if it doesn’t work for you anymore. You can make any change to your thoughts, actions and habits in order to slowly and gently discover your best self. It starts with awareness and the desire to change something that’s not working for you.

Do you have a story about how you have found a way to overcome obstacles in your life or relationships to move along the path to a healthier life?  If so, I would love to hear about it!  Please leave a comment below or send an e-mail to Debi (at) themojocoach.com.

Burning it up - Aerobic and Cardiovascular Exercise

What is aerobic exercise?

In a nutshell, aerobic exercise is the type of sustained activity where you engage the large muscles of your body (legs and gluts) for a prolonged period of time.  Aerobic exercise increases the need to oxygen that allows these muscles to perform, helps to flush toxins out of the bloodstream, increases your metabolism, and strengthens the heart and lungs.  Aerobic activity also requires sustained energy in the form of calories that are used to fuel your workout. Calories stoke the aerobic flame as wood or coal stokes a furnace.

Calories expended = pounds lost.  My favorite kind of math!

Math actually isn’t my favorite, but here are a couple of simple formulas for you.

3500 Calories = 1 Pound of body fat

500 Calories Less per Day X 7 Days = 1 Pound of body fat lost per week

Now that you know that math, there are a couple of ways you could go about this (and no, saying that’s too much and giving up is not one of them).

1) Burn 500 calories per day with exercise.  You burn about 100 calories every ten minutes of sustained aerobic activity when exercising at a challenging level, so a 50 minute aerobic workout each day would burn the 500 calories.  If that sound likes too much for some of you, here’s another option.

2) Burn 250 calories per day with exercise and eat 250 calories less each day.

The bottom line is, if you burn or expend more calories than you take in, you lose weight.  If you take in more calories than you burn, you gain.

Knowing these numbers can also help clear up some issues about being discouraged with only a one or two pound weight loss each week.  Two pounds is 7000 calories!!  That’s a tremendous amount of calories to eliminate through less food or more activity.

The recommended daily intake of calories for the average woman ranges anywhere from 1500 to 2200 calories per day.  So, don’t minimize your accomplishments, remember you’ve either burned or given up a lot of calories to lost a pound of fat!

When it comes to the appropriate type of aerobic activity for you, it’s a completely personal decision.  One mom may love to walk, another may love to run, another may love to dance, hike, use the elliptical machine, swim, bike, or hit the courts for an hour of tennis.  It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you a) choose something you enjoy and b) DO IT!

If you find your aerobic exercise torturous, you’ll hardly look forward to it.  But if you find it invigorating, rejuvenating, and inspiring - mark my words, you’ll miss it when you can’t do it!

You may be the type of person who becomes easily bored with routine.  If that’s the case, mix things up a bit and discover a few different activities you enjoy.  Try an organized sport that keeps you moving, or change your pace between high and low intensity while alternating between walking, jogging or running.  You can build a library of fun exercise DVDs or take classes at a nearby health club.  Maybe you want to go back to doing something you enjoyed before you had kids like jumping rope or rollerblading.

I’ll tell you a quick story.

When I was sixteen years old, I had my heart set on my first car, but I had no money to buy it.  It was a fire-engine red Triumph TR7 with a pull-down sunroof.  (I haven’t seen these cars on the road in years!)  I wanted the car and needed to find a way to earn enough money to buy it.

I found a job at a nearby, fancy country club where I worked as a pool waitress during the day and a hostess in the main dining room at night.  Since I didn’t have the car (yet) I had no transportation and needed to get to work, so I found an easy way to get there.  I roller skated!

Imagine this picture: I’m wearing a white uniform with my black apron tied around my waist, and I’m roller skating to work in my skates with the hot pink wheels!  Anyone who saw me got a good chuckle from the sight, but I was in great shape, resourceful, and earned enough money to buy the hottest car in my high school!

I told my kids this story, and after they told me how weird I was, I informed them that I was going to try skating again and anyone who wants to join me was welcome to.  I gave my old skates away, but found roller derby skates that are similar to the ones I had before.  Many falls and many laughs later, Disco Debi is back skating along to the same seventies music I enjoyed 25 years ago.

So find something that gets you moving that you enjoy.  And then get out there and burn it up!

Ready, Set….Slow.

When it comes to lasting weight loss, slow and steady wins the race.

Although many people take on the latest diet program, quick fix or promise of immediate results, most only find themselves right back where they started in a relatively short period of time. In fact, most people who take drastic measures to lose weight not only gain back what they lost, but gain even more leaving them more discouraged and frustrated with each attempt.

Why do we continue to put our time, effort and energy into the “quick fix” and why doesn’t it work?

Dieting doesn’t work for many reasons. The first reason is that drastic steps are temporary…at best. It isn’t realistic to commit into a 7-day-a-week exercise program if we haven’t been exercising at all or to think that we can drastically reduce our calories for the long term if we have many eating behaviors that caused the weight gain in the first place. If the changes we make can’t comfortably be worked into our day, our routine, our lifestyles and our lives, whatever we take on isn’t likely to continue. We may be able to commit to an overhaul in food choices or eating behaviors for a short while but when confronted with something that triggers us to overeat or abandon our best efforts, we will immediately go back to what is familiar and comfortable.

What is familiar and comfortable? Our habits. Whether they’re good or bad they’re what we’re comfortable with. That’s why when we want to lose weight those habits which originally caused the weight gain must be changed. We’ve all heard the saying “habits are hard to break” and because that’s true, a slow and steady approach needs to be used to develop new, healthier habits to replace the old, unhealthy ones.

So how do we break the habits which lead us to gain weight?

One thing we need to look at is our “diet mentality.” For many moms, we’re either on or off a diet at any given time. If we have that “all or nothing” or “black or white” extreme behavior when it comes to weight loss, there’s no room for error and no way to recover from any mistakes made along the way.  If the road to weight loss doesn’t allow for some imperfection, it is unrealistic to think that we can stick it out for the long haul.

Life throws us some curveballs from time to time, that’s a given. How we handle those curveballs may require some adjustments to our eating plan. If our eating plan doesn’t allow for those adjustments, where does that leave us?

It leaves us right off our diet. Angry, frustrated and discouraged, we revert right back to what is so deeply ingrained within us. Any progress made is abandoned and for many moms, here’s where the negative self talk takes us even further away from believing weight loss success is possible as we berate ourselves with every bite of foods we’ve sworn off for good. So, if this sounds so familiar and you’ve had enough of “yo-yo dieting”, weight cycling and diet behavior, what can you do?

1) Understand that each time you start an unrealistic diet, you chip away at your confidence and belief in your ability that you can lose weight. The more you chip away at that confidence, the less you trust yourself and the more powerless you become.

2) Understand that although it doesn’t sound as appealing as a “miracle cure” or “immediate solution”, weight loss is a journey. The more you discover why you gained the weight and understand that your habits can and need to be changed, the more weight loss success you’ll have.

3) Focus on the fact that each habit you change serves as a stepping stone to greater confidence, trust and belief in yourself. When we isolate a habit we want to change, put our efforts into finding a solution to turn that habit into one that better suits us, we feel proud and happy with our ability to take control of our eating and our behavior. That simply feels good and enables us to see that our choices and decisions are within our control. It brings about a feeling of strength and empowerment as well as increases our confidence and self esteem.

When we feel confident, strong and empowered, we’re proud of ourselves and realize that anything is within our grasp. While it may be more exciting to believe that drastic efforts bring huge results, when it comes to weight loss, the greatest results are found by making the most minimal…but consistent changes.

A Six Step Plan for Success

Are you ready to make some changes in your life?  Do you have challenges in any of these areas?

* Nutrition

* Fitness

* Stress control

* Emotional health

* Relationship wellness

* Spirituality

You don’t have to wait until New Year’s Eve to make significant changes in your life.  Any day can be the first day of your new lifestyle.  But to make it really happen, you need a plan for success!

STEP 1: Evaluate

Take a step back and honestly look at the few months and ask yourself, ” “How did it go?”  Take note of how you handled challenges that came up.  Are you happy with how things have gone?  I’m guessing if you are still reading this post, you are interested in changing some things.  So based on your thoughts about your recent past, next determine what you want within each of those six areas moms struggle with.

Nutrition:

Do you want to lose weight? Do you want to eat healthier? Do you want to cook better meals? Do you want to food shop more effectively? Do you want to take more time to pre-plan your meals and snacks?

Fitness:

If you have not taken the time for fitness, think about what you want to do differently. Do you want to create a more exciting workout? Do you need more motivation? Would a workout buddy or new exercise program help?

Stress:

Do you need a more effective outlet for better stress control? Do you want to learn to journal, meditate or to do yoga instead of eating or doing another destructive self soothing behavior when you’re stressed? Do you want to focus on becoming very familiar with the signs and signals that let you know that your body’s under stress?

Emotions:

Do you want to become more optimistic, positive, less serious or just more fun?  Do you want to react differently to challenging situations?

Relationships:

Do you need to reset boundaries, would you like to have a closer connection with your partner or do you want to have stronger, more fulfilling friendships?

Spirituality:

Is it time to pursue that goal, feel the joy, fulfillment and satisfaction that occurs when you’re truly in the zone because you’re doing what you absolutely love to do?

STEP 2: Set Goals

Once you come up with all those answers, set specific goals for where you want to be in the next year (or six months, or whatever time frame makes sense for you.)  Be as specific as you can so that what you want becomes clear and it feels real down to the very last detail.

STEP 3: Consider Obstacles

This next step is crucial but often overlooked. You want to consider every obstacle you may encounter. When you consider all of your obstacles, you’re not as thrown when they arise. They’re already somewhat familiar to you and they will not derail you so easily.

STEP 4: Plan to Overcome Obstacles

Once all obstacles are considered, come up with a strategy to overcome every one of them. We often don’t think of what may derail us or what may sabotage us. That’s why when we’re faced with it for the first time, we fall off track. Without planning, we fall off and we haven’t considered how to get back on.  If your goal to exercise daily will cause conflicts with your child’s sports schedule, can you ask someone to carpool?  Can you exercise during the sports event (walk around the soccer field)? Will you have a supportive community to turn to for support?  What else can you do overcome obstacles?

STEP 5: Set Milestones

After you’ve discovered what it is that you want, set small, manageable goals based on what you want to achieve and the strategies you just created. The reason why you break it down into small, manageable goals is to prevent overwhelm and encourage success. When you set a goal and you reach it, it builds your confidence and motivates you to continue.  If your goal is to lose a significant amount of weight, set smaller goals along the way and then…

STEP 6: Measure and Reward Success

How will you measure and track your progress? Will you be tracking your clothing size? Your weight?  Your mileage?  Will you monitor your progress daily or weekly?

How will you reward yourself? Will you reward yourself when you reach a specific goal or when you handled something in a way that made you proud? Will you treat yourself to a manicure when you manage a week without desserts? What’s important is that you determine, set up and implement a tracking and reward system for many reasons. Besides keeping us motivated to continue, monitoring our progress and rewarding our efforts validate our progress, help us see what’s working and what’s not, helps us stay encouraged to continue, focused and on track.

If you are ready to start making some changes in your life, these steps can give you a roadmap to success.  With clear goals and some advanced planning, you can make progress in building a better, happier, healthier and more fulfilled life.

While many things are out of your control, your thoughts, behaviors and actions are things you have complete control over. Destructive behaviors can lead you to continue down a negative path while taking the steps towards creating new, positive behaviors can bring you closer to becoming the woman that’s patiently waiting to be unleashed.

As always, the choice is yours.

Becoming Supermarket Savvy

You know by now that one of the easiest ways to avoid temptation is to avoid bringing high-fat, high-sugar foods into your home in the first place. This effort begins in the supermarket, so learning to shop more effectively can be one of the most useful skills when trying to create new, healthy lifestyle habits. Studies have shown that moms make more than 90% of the food purchasing decisions, so now’s the time to learn how to make those decisions smart ones!

The first step is to avoid the random impulse purchasing of binge-inducing trigger foods. The easiest way to do this is by shopping with a prepared list. Sitting down to write a list out may seem like a big task, but you can make it easier.

An easy trick is to keep a running list easily accessible in your kitchen - maybe hanging on the refrigerator. When you are running low on something, jot it down. When you think of a healthy meal you’d like to try, write down the ingredients. When you see a picture, advertisement or recipe for a delicious healthy meal, grab your list and write it down.

Another great shortcut in list making (and healthy meal planning) is to subscribe to a service like The Six O’Clock Scramble, which not only gives you a week of healthy recipes, but comes with a handy grocery list including everything you need to make all of the recipes!

Once you have your list, make sure you only take the list to the supermarket.  Leave your hunger and your kids at home.

If you food shop when you’re hungry, you’re much more tempted to buy things you would normally be able to bypass.  By having a light snack or mini meal before you enter the supermarket, you’re judgment will stay intact and you will be able to make more sound choices.

Have you noticed how much more junk food you buy when you bring your kids to the supermarket with you?

“Mom, can you pleeeeeease buy this (sugary, calorie-laden) cereal I saw on TV?”

“Mom, everyone brings in these (high fat, high cholesterol, nutrient void) snacks to school!”

The battles can be endless in the supermarket, with foods containing the least nutrition and the most far, sugar and calories strategically placed right at your children’s eye level.  If you must bring your children, also bring a strong resolve to stick to your list.  If you have a choice, leave the kids at home and take a few moments for yourself.  You can use the opportunity to make better choices that the whole family will benefit from.

So, you’re armed with your list, you’ve had a snack and now you are alone in the supermarket.

Where do you begin?

First, let’s talk about labels.

1.) The first think to notice when looking at a nutrition label is to note the number of servings in the package.  The calories, fat, cholesterol, fiber and sodium are all listed for only one serving.  So, for example, if you buy a bag of popcorn and the bag contains ten servings and you finish the bag, the calories, fat, cholesterol and other nutritional information must all be multiplied by ten to understand what you have just consumed.

2.) Ingredients are listed in order from the highest concentration to the lowest.  This means that if sugar or fat are listed within the first few ingredients, there’s a high concentration of sugar or fat on the item.  The reverse is also true.  If the healthy-sounding ingredients - the fruit, the whole grains - are at the end of the ingredient list, there is likely to be only a tiny bit of them in the product.

3.) Sugar is often disguised under different names.  High fructose corn syrup, any ingredient ending in “-ose”, honey, molasses, fruit juice concentrate, and brown sugar are all forms of sugar that act just like regular, white, refined sugar within your body.

4.) If the front label claims that the food is “healthy”, “low-fat”, “wholesome”, “made with whole grain”, “made with fruit”, check the back label to see what the real story is.  Food producers do not generally have your good health in mind when they put foods on the shelf.  They want the foods to sell, and they know that these kinds of claims catch the attention of people who are trying to eat healthier foods.  But the ingredients often tell a different story.  Foods may be low in sugar, but high in fat and artificial coloring.  They may contain a small amount of whole grain, along with a hefty dose of white flour and high fructose corn syrup.  Make sure you look at the whole label and don’t rely on the health claims to guide your choices.

5.) How many of the ingredients on the list look familiar?  How many can you pronounce?  How many would you feel comfortable including in something you were cooking or baking at home? When you were a child and your grandmother baked her delicious, mouth-watering apple pie, the only flavor enhancer she added was the love that went into baking it for you.  Although there are thousands of items available in the typical supermarket today, an alarming amount are pre-packaged, processed and provide little nutrient value.

When a food is processed, it is altered from its natural state.  Valuable nutrients, vitamins and minerals are taken out while chemicals and additives are injected back in.  Food dyes, flavor enhancers, stabilizers and preservatives may make food look more colorful or extend shelf life but think about it.  If a product can last indefinitely in a store or a vending machine, what happens to it when it’s in your body?

An easy rule to make healthy purchasing decisions would be this: if you can’t pronounce it, if you wouldn’t add it to anything you were cooking or baking at home, if you wouldn’t find the ingredient listed anywhere in your favorite cookbook, it’s probably best not to eat it.

So what are the healthiest choices to make when food shopping?

Most of the healthiest foods are located in the outermost aisles of the supermarket.  These include the fruit, vegetable, dairy and meat departments.

Let’s start in the produce department.  Here’s where you really want to fill up your cart.  Pile in beautiful, interesting and colorful fruits and vegetables.  Different colors of fruits and vegetables offer different nutrients, so just by making colorful selections, you’re automatically increasing your chances of getting a wide variety of healthy nutrients.  There are also many varieties of prewashed, precut lettuces and other vegetables available, making it easy to prepare interesting salads and side dishes.  Here’s where you splurge, because if a variety of pretty, precut vegetables are available at home, your may reconsider eating pre-packaged, processed junk food.

In the meat section opt for leaner cuts of beef, chicken and turkey.  Choose cuts with less visible fat to decrease your intake of saturated fat.  If you are buying ground meat, look closely at the percent of fat (most labels now show the fat content) and buy the leanest version.  With fish, choose both fatty (salmon and tuna) and lean varieties.  Fatty fish are great sources of omega 3’s and white colored varieties (flounder, sole, and halibut) are low in fat and calories.

In the dairy section look for words such as “low fat”, “non fat”, “fat free”, “1 percent”, “2 percent”, and “skim”. Consider switching to skim milk, or at least working your way down to 2%, then 1% and then skim.  Whole milk contains about 3.5% fat (and 150 calories in a serving), so 2% milk is still more than half of the fat (and 120 calories), while skim milk has only .4 grams of fat and 86 calories per serving.

Eggs, butter, margarine and soy products are often in these aisles so read labels and choose carefully.  Watch the fat in your dairy products and look out for added sugar in yogurts, creamers and soy milk.

You can still pick up healthy items in some of the center aisles if you choose carefully.  In the grain aisle, try to avoid refined carbohydrates and opt for whole grain and high fiber whenever possible.  Choose 100% whole-wheat or sprouted grain bread, high-fiber cereals, whole-grain pasta, and brown rice.  The closer the grain is to its natural source, the more fiber and nutrients it contains.  Beans can also be found in either the grain or canned food aisles.  Dry beans require soaking, which may not appeal to you.  Canned beans are just as nutritious, so if you’ll eat more beans this way, buy the canned version!  In the frozen foods section, you might want to grab a few bags of frozen vegetables or mixed blends (without the added sauces or butter flavoring).  Frozen vegetables retain the vitamins and nutrients while being convenient and easy to prepare.

When you work on becoming more supermarket savvy, you become more familiar with labels, packaging, and products available in your supermarket and you begin to realize that your shopping trips can either be the first step in preparing a healthy eating environment in your home, instead of a war zone where you battle with your best intentions, your cravings and your judgement.




View Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC





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