Archive for May, 2010

Something Beautiful I Want to Share with You…

For the past few months, I’ve been blessed every morning to see a beautiful bird outside my gym window. I watched her every day as she worked on building the perfect nest for the family she’d hoped to have.

She started building one nest under the rafters visible right outside the window. When it wasn’t quite right, she moved onto the next rafter; wanting only the best for her babies to be. Still, the nest building project didn’t quite meet her expectations so she moved on for a third time to what she must have considered, the perfect place to build a home.

Every day she’d find the right sticks and twigs, intertwine them together into the perfect shape, height and depth until she felt is was good enough to deposit her eggs. It amazed me to see how without any equipment or construction tools, she was able to create a home!

Once complete, she laid her eggs and as any mom can understand, sat waiting patiently with unconditional love until her chicks were ready to hatch.

Day after day I’d look out my window and find her there, seeming perfectly content to nurture and keep warm her growing eggs while other birds happily flew from tree to tree. She didn’t look like she was missing out on anything as she seemed satisfied sitting on her nest nurturing the precious gifts that were slowly growing beneath her. Sometimes I’d see her there with her eyes closed, sometimes open but either way, she was always there protecting her growing eggs.

Just yesterday, I checked on my new housemate and to my surprise, she wasn’t there.

Curiously, I waited because like any mom knows, a mom could never abandon her child. If she wasn’t there, it meant that either something had gone terribly wrong or at least, something had certainly changed.

Sure enough, a few minutes later, I saw a tiny beak peak out from the middle of the nest. Then I saw another tiny head…and still another. Three tiny newborn chicks were doing their best to hold their heads up, beaks open, eyes closed, waiting for their mom to come back home and feed them.

I was awestruck by the beauty of it all. A combination of a mother’s unconditional love, the miracle of birth, the desire to love and protect and all of it coming from a tiny bird who felt safe enough to choose my home as the perfect place to build a home for her new family-just as I’d felt comfortable enough choosing the same home as the perfect place to build my own.

Now, this isn’t only about a mother’s love because as I watched closely, I saw that just as we need support from friends, a partner, others, etc., my little friend had support as well. In a miraculous moment, I saw both mom and dad fly to their nest and feed their newborns the food they’d both recently searched for. What’s even more incredible is the camaraderie and pride they seemed to share as they offered a “kiss” to each other for a job well done.

It’s been great to share this gift with my own family and now with you.

Hope you enjoy this picture as much as I enjoyed sharing it!

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Something to Consider this Mother’s Day…and Every Other Day Too!

Any plans for Mother’s Day? Whether you’re a mom or there’s a mom in your life, make sure to celebrate!

As moms, we’re so busy taking care of everyone else that we sometimes need to be reminded to take care of ourselves too. But for many moms, by the time everyone else’s needs are met, we don’t have the time, strength, motivation or energy left for any self-care. So where does that leave us? Unfit, overweight, overwhelmed and unhappy! Here’s how it works…

Face it; you probably have way too much to take care of. There are about 1,000 tasks, chores, errands and responsibilities to tackle throughout any given day.

How can you possibly get it all done? The only way is by cutting some corners and instead of our overwhelm impacting anyone else, we may find some extra time by:

giving up our workouts

grabbing something to eat while cooking for others instead of sitting down to a meal

saving a few minutes by not doing our makeup, hair, nails, etc.

wearing the same old clothes because we haven’t taken the time to get new ones

giving up time to read a book, take a bath, journal, etc. so we can straighten up the house, fold the
laundry or do the dishes

telling our friends we can’t meet them for lunch because we have errands to take care of

the list goes on and on…

So we do this for a while, maybe years, even decades. We look in the mirror and see the result of our “selflessness” and find that we’ve been loving everyone else but ourselves. We see a tired face, an unfit body and a “thrown together” look. We shake our heads in disgust and walk away. The results of our current lifestyle, choices and habits are less than glamorous. Here’s where the anger, frustration and shame starts to kick in…but it doesn’t have to!

The first step to changing ANYTHING that doesn’t work is to first become aware of it. Have you become aware of something that isn’t working for you? GREAT! Now you need to figure out what you’re missing whether it’s eating better, getting back into fitness, getting more sleep, spending time with friends, reading a magazine, etc.

Once you’ve figured that out, carve out some time and get started! It doesn’t need to be anything major, anything drastic is only temporary at best. Slow, steady steps in the right direction is the only way to achieve lasting results. Now, here’s where some moms get tripped up and think…”But I don’t have time for those things.” Is there no time because you don’t want to ask for help, feel no one can do a task as well as you, find it difficult to let go of something or believe you’ll seem inadequate if you delegate some tasks? Here’s what I say…”Please hang up the cape SuperMom!”

I’m sure you’re extremely capable of doing it all but from personal experience (if you don’t know my story I tell it in my book The Lifestyle Fitness Program) that mindset only led to a complete deterioration of my health, wellness and happiness. It led to so many symptoms, illnesses, conditions and even disease. It was only when I hit rock bottom and was willing to acknowledge the damage my lifestyle was creating that I took back the reigns and made the necessary changes to regain my health, fitness, wellness and happiness. You can too!

So, here’s my Mother’s Day gift to you. You’re amazing, incredible, capable and have all the tools you need to make the changes to your lifestyle to make it work better. You don’t need to make excuses, justify or rationalize why you want a little time for you. You deserve to feel good-not because you’ve proven anything to anyone but simply because you exist!

Give yourself permission to take better care of yourself-not just on Mother’s Day but every day. It’s not indulgent, it’s crucial to your wellness and will not only benefit you but will benefit all within your care. Will you make that over due hair appointment? Take a walk? Buy some beautiful ripe berries to enjoy? It’s so simple but so important. I’d love to hear your ideas, let me know what you’re planning to do. Comment and share!




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