Archive for March, 2010

We Are What We…

Many of us have heard the saying “we are what we eat. Basically this means that if our diets are made up of fast food, takeout, foods high in sugar, high in fat, if we drink too much or if we consider our children’s leftovers a decent meal, we can’t really be surprised if our body doesn’t look or feel it’s best. To sum it up; eat bad, look and feel bad. Well, not only are we what we eat, but we’re also what we feel, think, hear, see, do and believe. Here’s how.

Let’s start with what you think. If you think you’re unlovable, unworthy or incapable, and these are the thoughts that play continuously in your mind, can you really be surprised if these thoughts encourage you act or carry yourself a certain way? Maybe they’ll prevent you from feeling deserving of a loving relationship, cause you to feel unworthy of something fabulous or incapable of achieving a goal or dream. If these or similar thoughts are playing in a negative tape loop you’ve created, take a look at how they’re showing themselves within your life.

Moving on to “we are what we feel.” If you feel overweight, unattractive or ill-equipped in some way, take a look at the way you dress, the way you carry yourself, what you do (or don’t do) and the relationships you have. Notice how these feelings show themselves in the clothes you choose, the opportunities you may be avoiding and what you’re willing to tolerate in a coworker, friend or partner. Now identify how different things would be if you didn’t feel this way about yourself.

“We are what we hear.” Think about it, if you’re listening to people who are negative, critical, pessimistic and judgmental, can you be surprised when you feel deflated, depleted and uninspired? Of course you’re trying to be a good listener, you may even be the “go to person” when someone wants to gossip, needs to vent or complain. Notice however, how you feel once this negativity is dumped on you.

Let’s take a look at “we are what we see.” If you’re watching programs filled with misery, pain, violence or vulgarity, are you surprised if that has an affect on you? Take TV news for example. Sure you may be up to date on the latest tragedies in the areas of crime, the recession, drugs or disease but how do these visuals resonate with you? After seeing them do you feel calm, serene and comfortable or nervous, vulnerable and afraid?

Next, let’s look at “we are what we do.” If you’re doing little more than chores or tasks when you’re home, errands and an unfulfilling job when you’re out, can you be surprised if you’re not excited about your life? Think about it. Take a look at your typical day and see what it’s made of. If it’s crammed with tasks leaving no room for self care, healthy eating, exercise, down time and fun, can you see how this may be showing itself in how you look, feel and live?

Lastly, let’s look at “we are what we believe.” Our belief system is created by the repetition of an idea from someone we trust. For example, let’s say you were constantly told “you can be, do or have anything.” This was said to you enough times and it became your belief system as well. But, let’s say you were on the receiving end of someone with limited beliefs themselves. They may have told you that you were not meant to be wealthy, happy, thin, carefree, etc. They may have believed that “life is a struggle, everyone in our family has a fiery temper, is prone to heart disease, has these thighs,” etc. When this was said to you enough times, it became your belief system as well. Are you surprised then when you go into your adult life, carrying this belief system and living within these limits?

Not only are we what we eat, but we’re also what we think, feel, hear, see, do and believe. It’s all of these factors that contribute to who we are and how we live our lives as a result. The best part about it is that with awareness and a desire to change, whatever area doesn’t work well for you anymore can slowly and steadily be changed so that it does. The choice is ours.

I’d love to hear your comments. Comment and share!

A Disney/Half Marathon Recap

Hope you had a great 2 weeks! I just got back from an incredible weekend in Disney. If you’ve been reading the last few newsletters you know that I was invited as a VIP guest (hotel, flight, dinners, spa treatments…the list goes on and on). There was a catch however-I had to run the Disney Princess Half Marathon (13.1 miles) and only had 6 weeks to train for it-EEK! Training has been a huge learning experience and it all paid off with an incredible few days with my fellow Princesses. Here they are:

Besides the race, we toured the “sporty side of Disney” which included the new ESPN complex, water parks, water sports, a sports expo and more! Early Sunday morning (I’m talking 3am early) it was time to get ready for the race. Here’s me taking a photo of myself in the bathroom mirror:

Certainly not looking very glamorous but I was ready to go with my “The Mojo Coach” shirt which had a photo of my family on the back for good luck. Once at Epcot where the race began, Princesses (and a few Princes dressed like Princesses) were everywhere! The spirit was infectuous with over 13,000 women eager and determined to do their best. During the run, school bands played at almost every mile and Disney characters were everywhere. Ipod loaded with my favorite songs and adrenaline flowing I took off and vowed to not compare myself with anyone else, keep up a steady pace that felt right and just do my best. Turns out it was a good plan because I finished in 1hour and 55minutes!

The run was a thrill (and I’m proud to say I’m officiially a Half Marathoner) but the real highlight had to be the surprise visit from my family! My husband and kids packed up, boarded the dogs and flew to Disney to cheer me on (and of course spend a few days at the parks while they were there). Here I am with my favorite cheering squad:

Besides all of the special magic that only Disney can bring, this experience has taught me as well as my family so much. First, when opportunities come along, grab them-they present themselves for a reason. Sure they may be scary but only because they’re unfamiliar-not because it’s something you can’t do and once you push yourself to a new level, you’d be amazed at how capable you really are.

These opportunities are also great lessons for your kids to see. First, they see that you’re feeling some fear but working through it instead of retreating. Next they see you stumble and fall but keep getting up and trying again. The lesson being that it’s part of the process to struggle at first-it’s not weakness but the only way to grow.

Next they see you setting a goal, making a commitment and managing your time so that it all gets done as best you can-also showing that if things aren’t perfect, it’s perfectly ok.

Next, they see you accomplish things you’ve never done before, giving you opportunities to be proud of each goal you achieve as you work towards something bigger.

Another bonus was that my husband and kids got to spend time alone together without me. While I’m sure their hotel room was a disaster and they ate way more junk food than usual, I’m sure their time together was priceless.

Finally it was an opportunity for my family to give me a treasured gift of their love and support. And for me, it was an opportunity for my heart to melt as I saw my family there to cheer me on. While yes, it didn’t hurt that they were going to the place where dreams come true, knowing that their primary intention was to support me is an indescribable feeling-kind of a combination of love, appreciation, gratitude and awe.

So if their rooms are a messy and my husband leaves his socks on the floor for a few days… they get a free pass from me!




View Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC





Fitness Blogs - BlogCatalog Blog Directory